(Closed) Is it just me, or are there a disturbing number of

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@abirdword:  Not just you. It’s breaking my heart.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve noticed this, too!  I don’t know if more people are feeling comfortable sharing or if it’s just a bunch of them at once, but it’s really sad.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Yeah, i’ve noticed. As a relatively new bee, i’m not sure if this is the norm … but it’s really sad. I hope the posters going through this get the support they need. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have noticed this too! It is really very sad.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yep. It’s sad, especially as someone who’s been there before. If I’d posted about my ex and had 7 PAGES of strangers telling me to run, I would have gotten out of there long before I did.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@abirdword:   Noticed it too.  Sad!  But you know what?  I’ve been there, as some of you know, and a board similar to this one was a first step I took in getting extricated from that horror.

This is a safe place where everyone can feel loved and supported and not judged.  My online friends back then helped me so much when I was too ashamed and afraid to tell anyone IRL.  Once I actually typed out the words, in black and white, and had strangers comfort me and encourage me and tell me I did not deserve it, it was wrong and I needed to get help, suddenly the light bulb went off that my suffering could be near the end if I could gather the courage to leave.  And I did leave.  (holy run-on sentence batman).

And it started with an online board, a simple board for battered wives.  We helped each other through it.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It is really sad. I worked at a domestic violence agency for a while, and it really opened my eyes to how prevalent it is. I think people feel safe to share here, because it is relatively anonymous, it’s not people you know “in real life,” and the community is overwhelmingly supportive of each other.  

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’ve noticed this as well! It’s so sad. But, at least there are honest Bees out there to tell them the honest truth as an outsider looking in.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

As someone who was in an abusive relationship, it really upsets me. I actually try to stay away from them as best as I can. I guess I dont think that I would have listened to a bunch of internet strangers back when it was going on. And a lot of women spend the entire 10 pages of posts defending the guy. Not good. 

Violence at home, whether it be a child or an adult, is never something to “troll” about so I really hope these posts were in serious and that their abusers are brought to justice before it gets out of hand. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree!  Honestly, though, looking at those messages it sort of helps explain the divorce statistics.  If folks proceed into marriage in a clearly abusive situation, we can only hope these ladies make it out on the other side through a divorce.  Because…what else are their options??  Live the rest of your life miserable or wind up dead.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Old Stone House in Brookyn

I noticed this trend too. A lot of these threads include information about the cycle of abuse, warning signs, etc. Maybe reading them alerted other bees that something is off about their own relationship?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s really sad. It REALLY bothers me that they are posting on WB because that means they must be considering marriage to these jerks to have found this website!

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