Post # 1
I started designing our invitations today, and when looking at templates, the wordiness started to bug me. I mean, I know it’s an important event, but really, all you need are the names of the people getting married, date, time, and location. When did it become standard to make invitations so formal? It’s not the Academy Awards or anything. Terms such as “Request Your Prescence” and “four o’clock” instead of 4pm. Or that you’re supposed to name both sets of parents. I understand these things are standard, but considering most of us don’t word invitations for other things this way, it’s sort of odd to me.
Post # 3
It depends on how formal your wedding is if you are doing a casual backyard BBQ you dont need to word your invitations like that but if you are doing a formal Black tie wedding i think it is appropriate to word to your invites that way.
No one is going to make you do your invites their way. Do what you want and what works for you and your wedding
Post # 4
@MsPanda: Totally agree.
It’s wordy because it’s traditional and formal and it’s the “proper” way of inviting someone to such an important event. Having said that, if you want something less formal, then go for it! I’ve seen heaps of cute invites for weddings that have so much personality and character and are a little less “proper”.
Post # 5
@MsPanda: True, and I’m not planning on creating a formal invitation. I was just wondering how that level of formality became standard.
Post # 6
Naming both sets of parents is kind of new; it used to be the bride’s parents, but nowadays, more and more families are contributing to their sons’ weddings so they’re technically hosts as well.
If you’re having a more casual wedding, you don’t need to be so formal with the invitation. The formality of the invitation somewhat indicates the formality of the wedding.
If it’s just not you and no one’s going to fuss, use whatever wording you want! My mom fought me tooth and nail on my invites, even though “it’s just a second wedding so it’s not really formal.” People get weird about it.