Post # 1
I have been married for two and half years now. Wow time flies! But I feel like I am at a point in my life that is just blah. The hubs and I don’t have kids yet, but everyone around us is getting pregnant. People are constantly asking us when we are havijng babies and we also stuck to, not now, we want to enjoy our time as a couple and do things like go on vacations with no restraints. But now, I started thinking about age and how old do I want to be when I have a child and that time really isn’t on my side. I will be 28 in ten days. I know, it’s young, but when you think about it in terms of baby making… it’s not that young. So I am so torn. Now we had somewhat of a baby talk with the hubs, and the urge settled in that I would love to start trying to have a child. But the hubs is just really enjoying our life as a couple now too. Don’t get me wrong, I am enjoying it too. I have friends who have kids and they don’t get to do half the stuff we do. But I got myself all excited when we had the talk which ended in “let’s wait another month (time frame of birth control) and see. I have convinced myself that the hubs, who mentioned the whole baby talk, really doesn’t want any kids any time soon. And in my head I am thinking about how long it will take to have a baby. Considering that when we decide when the timing is right, it will at least take a year for my body to be prepared for a baby then maybe another year till I actually get pregnant. So, I got mysef all excited to cry by myself when the hubs said, let’s wait another month before making a decision. I am torn. THe month time frame is coming around the corner. Any of you ladies in the same boat? Words of wisdom?
Post # 3
Sorry you are overwhelmed! I am beyond overwhelmed right now because hubby and I made the decision to go off bc after the summer and before you know it the summer was over. However since I am freaking out a little I have decided to still go off bc and let me body regulate. It could take 1 cycle or 12 so at least this should give me some time to really think and if I want to wait a little longer than at least I will be completely ready when we do try. So if you focus on you and getting your testing, shots, etc. and get your body ready then maybe by that time Darling Husband will be ready too.
Post # 4
I’m sorry you feel that way! We are a few years younger than you so the baby urges aren’t too strong yet and I feel like I still have time. We are planning on buying a house so that will keep be distracted for a while but after that who knows?
Post # 5
We have a baby now (just had her and I’m 28), but I tend to worry about having the next b/c I don’t want to wait too long due to age. My husband did make the point that if we wanted to wait 5 years (which we don’t, he was just making a point that I don’t have to freak out and rush to get pregnant again), I’ll be 33. Which is still a good baby making age!
Post # 6
Thanks for the words of wisdom. I know it’s just a tough time when it comes to making big decisions. I just have to think “Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming.” Glad to know I am not the only one and that it is perfectly normal.
Post # 7
I’m struggling with the same issues. I want couple time and time to travel, my husband wants a baby now. I’m fairly certain that I want children but I’m going to miss couple time and travel. I’m afraid we’ll never have couple time and travel will be a thing of the past. At 28 you still have time, baring health concerns you could easily wait another year. I’m 38 and time is running out. One could say I’ve had plenty of time but we married late, we were both 36 when we got married.
I did go ahead and go off BC last November.
Post # 8
We are in the same boat. Some people call me greedy sometimes when I give them the reasons we don’t want to have kids at the moment. But, I just know that having kids is a change of lifestyle. And I always stuck to that we weren’t ready for that type of lifestyle. But now it’s hard to just be around everyone who is getting pregnant and the stupid peer pressure sinks in too. I just am torned. And then the hubs confused me too by bringing up the baby talk, and then saying, let’s wait. ahhh… life is so confusing sometimes.