(Closed) Is it just me, or does this happen to other brides?

posted 10 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 17
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Bumble bee

I’ve only gotten it once, and it was from a complete stranger. She started by asking if my engagement ring was real, (Um, yes?) and then said, “Oh, wow, how old are you…16? Why are you getting married? You’re so young!” Well…alright. I’m actually 18, turning 19, and Fiance and I love each other and want the same things in life, we share the same values, beliefs, and interests. We know we want to be together, yes, forever; so why would we wait? Also, Fiance is 29, turning 30, has a full-time job, a degree, and we can support ourselves well.

The thing that irked me was that…I didn’t KNOW this woman.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

I get asked this all the time

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m 22 and will be 23 by the time I get married and no one has said we’re really too young to be getting married. My fiance’s younger brother, who is 21, got married when he was 20 (which he’s only one year younger than us really), but everyone thought/thinks that he got married too young. I guess people just judge by whether or not it’s been a long relationship and if the couple seems mature enough? and not always if they’re truly in love. I’m not sure, but my ultimate guess is that people might think that you’re just trying to jump onto the bandwagon of “getting married at a young age” thing. It’s really not fair because every person/couple is different.

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I get asked this all the time. I will be 23 and my fiance will be 24 and it is especially coming from our coworkers. My fiance is a firefighter and keeps getting told that I am going to cheat on him since he will be gone all the time (which he won’t be haha he works 24, off 48) and my coworkers all tell me that it won’t last because I am too young and haven’t had much life experience.  I think that people can’t judge things like that from their experiences, they don’t know what you have gone through.  I consider myself mature for my age and my fiance and I have a very open, honest relationship where we discuss everything. I think it doesn’t really have to always do with your age, but what you put into it and how hard you work at it.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - Toronto, Ontario

i get that question all the time

especially from divorced bitter drunk people

usually followed by “DON’T DO IT”

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

If someone asked me that, I would say,

“So people like you can ask me dumbass questions, that’s why.”

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

OMG I got this ALL the time when I got engaged a month ago and it bothered me so much I wrote a long vent on here so I FEEL YOU! It happened with nearly 1 out out 2 people responding in a negative, questioning, suspicous type why making rude remarks like “you’re not pregnant are you”. I know people will tell you to let it go and don’t worry about it forget them but I know how frustrating it is and it’s easier said than done to not let it bother  you. Now I have developed some nice comebacks like the one’s other people have said and it doesnt bother me as I have had time to learn to not care but i was exactly were you are now! (Oh and im 21 going on 22 in a few months, been with F1 for 3.5 yrs)

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yes. All the time, from everyone including my parents. It makes me want to scream SHUT UPPPP.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

They never ask me why…

they just tell me I am to young and that I am flish etc.

its seriously annoying. soi just started saying ” If we are going to grow old toether we might as well grow up together.” 

i always wanted to get married young.

my dad was 18 year s older then my mom and beacue he was set in his ways they never had a chance to develop and grow as a couple. I think its important to be with someone whle you are developing as long as you work on developing together. i think itswhat makes those highschool sweetheat storys the very best.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I get it too. Not as much as I used to, now most people ask me why I’ve been engaged so long… I didn’t let it get to me though, most people that asked were divorced and hated anyone happily married anyway.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It could be worse…you could be in your 30’s and people ask you what took you so long haha

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Random people would give us a hard time over it. But everyone that truly knew us personally just said “It’s about time!” 

My husband recently started medical school. I went to pick him up one day and ended up giving a couple of girls from his class a ride home. One of the girls immediately starts in on how she doesn’t know how people could get married at such a young age. She said that she guessed that it was because she was so much more mature and knew she wasn’t ready for marriage. I felt like telling her she was apparently not as mature as DH and I because we WERE ready for marriage. I also felt like slapping her in the face, but decided that this would probably make me look immature, lol. 

Post # 30
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

For our 6th anniversary this year we were going on a holiday. Alot of people thought he might pop the question then and when we got back and we were engaged everyone said “about time!!!” I am 21 and fi is 22 turning 23 in two months. I dont feel too young to be getting married, I want to be with him and we have already bought a house together.. why wait?

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