(Closed) Is it just me, or is this FB status about illness out of line? (Rant)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yes it was very inappropriate but I think it was meant well (stupid people will be stupid).  Since you’re close, have you contacted this woman’s family to see if you can “get there first”  I’m sure they’d rather hear it from you than a stranger on FB.

 A similar thing happened in the parish I grew up in about 5 years ago.  A 17 year old girl died on a Saturday night, she injured herself in an epileptic fit.  The paramedic told our pastor and the pastor announced it to the congregation that morning service.  Her family (aunts, cousins, grandparents) found out in church.  I never knew if the paramedic got fired for breeching confidentiality but no one said anything to the pastor (who was a known gossip anyway), he was a man of god.  But the family stopped going to the church after that.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Yeah I think the timing was poor. I couldn’t imagine how I would feel if I found out on FB that something serious happened to my loved one.  Sounds like something seeking attention over having the persons best interest at heart. I’m glad you said something.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

If her family were not told, totally inappropriate.

I once put a post on fb saying something similar when my childhood friend was hit by a train (would you believe he’s ok?!), but I waited hours, even after his family knew. I called my best friend (who grew up with us), but other than that told nobody, even though his family knew, because I was worried some close friends may not have known and didn’t feel that it was my place.

I think this woman may have wanted to be able to say ‘i was there, I knew before you!’. Otherwise, why not wait, or call the family first? Expressing sympathy is not more important than telling loved ones who are concerned. She should have waited.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

she sounds like a d head. LOL stupid people will be stupid love it!!!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

I agree. It doesn’t sound like an act done in the best taste. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@shadesofviolet:  I 100% would have called her up on that as well.  Some people are leeches, trying to suck excitement and attention off the pain of others. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I totally agree it was inappropriate.  My Sister-in-Law is a prolific Facebooker and once posted about being in A&E all night with my Brother.  To say I was panicked and then upset at finding out through Facebook is an understatement!  Completely thoughtless.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

She meant well, but her timing was really off.  Unfortunately, in the age of Facebook, some people don’t think before they post.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Immediate family should always know before Facebook. Once they knew, I would consider the status to be a sweet gesture. But if they didn’t know yet, then it’s out of line. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I think she has no class. The family should be contacted first before all else. And what is she doing posting something like that on FB anyways? She is not family. She feels so darn important to be the first to blab about it and cause the family more grief because they find out this way? Sheesh!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think you are over reacting. The fb status was in no way inappropriate, I highly doubt this woman’s family will be so concerned to check fb before going to see if she is ok, and many will likely thank the woman later for her well wishes, relax.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think people take FB status message way to serious and you over reacted. There is a hide feature just for this. The main concern was the person who was sick.  Was it ill timed sure, but for you to comment I think was out of line

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m sure the poster meant well but I agree, the timing was inappropriate.

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