Post # 1
Have you guys ever noticed that:
– On cake toppers, the bride is usually blonde and the guy is brunette? I wonder if it says something about our notions of feminine and masculine beauty.
– There are so many signs which say “Mr and Mrs XYZ”. Why does everyone assume that one of the partners will change their name? Surely it can’t be that rare to keep your name, right?
I’m sure there are more… share yours!
Post # 3
That the groom will take zero part in planning! Or that, as the bride, planning should be #1 source for excitement until the big day!!
Post # 4
Hmm, good ones! Especially the last name thing, since so many people I know didn’t change theirs (my fiance is taking my name, and that’s even more uncommon, but that’s a different issue as we could still be annouced as “Mr. and Mrs. XYZ.”)
The cake topper thing is weird too… after all, there are many more people with brown hair than there are with blonde hair… and it is also a good intermediary color that kinda looks like dirty blonde, red, or black, while blonde only looks like blonde or neon yellow, and kinda looks like dirty blonde. So, why would the default be blonde? That’s like making the bride’s default hairstyle a pixie cut rather than mid-length.
Non-white bride and groom cake toppers are also still uncommon, and often they are sold as a matching pair (so, asian bride and asian groom, black bride and black groom, and so on. And of course, one male and one female).
I guess for an interracial cake topper, you’ve got to go for the big bucks and customize, as if it’s something very unusual and personalized, but it’s not really that “unusual and personalized” to be an interracial couple these days, is it?
Why aren’t standard (non-specialty) cake toppers produced and stocked in rough proportion to the racial distribution of the community, and why aren’t they sold in mix-n-match format? Would it really be that hard? The dollar store usually manages to have a variety of races of plastic dolls, and they don’t exactly have a big markup on those.
Post # 5
@Tsuki56: this – even when sending emails from our joint wedding account and signing both our names, vendors will reply with only my name in the salutation. If I was the only one who cared, I would’ve emailed from my own account!
Post # 6
@joya_aspera: Good point… why don’t they sell them as mix and match dolls? It would be so much simpler! Meh… this is one of the reasons why we are having cat cake toppers instead!