Post # 1
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Blushing bee
My fiance and I just went to a wedding for a friend of his. About halfway through the reception, one of the bridesmaids started going around the room with a roll of raffle tickets, and you were supposed to buy tickets for $1, or an arm’s length for $10. I think they called it 50/50, and supposedly someone would win half of the proceeds and the other half would go to the bride and groom. (Although we stayed pretty late and they never annouced a winner, so…)
What made it even worse was how obnoxious this bridesmaid was. When she approached our table she said, “C’mon you guys, get your wallets out, they really need the money!!”
We had already driven several hours just to attend this wedding, and brought a very nice gift, and I was just shocked that they were literally trying to guilt trip us into forking over even more money for them.
Has anyone else even heard of this “game”??
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
I have NEVER heard of that at a wedding! HS sports games yes.
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
I have never heard of that before – strange but a good way to make some moolah for the couple… lol (sorry)
Post # 5
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Sugar bee
I feel like if they did a Jack & Jill party (which I’m not a huge fan of), this would be something you’d see there, but not at the wedding reception!!!
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
Hmm…I’ve never heard of that at a wedding, but I don’t think it’s tacky. If you think about it, the dollar dances are similar…it’s a way for the bride and groom to get a little more cash to start their life together.
I do think it was tacky for the bridesmaid to really push people to give money, but if people were freely offering and buying tickets, then I think it’s sort of a cute idea and a differnt one than the dollar dance.
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
Never at a wedding. At fundraising events but not a wedding. Personally, I would not have done this at my wedding for the same reasons you mentioned above.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
I can see why you’d be annoyed. Depending on who was at the table, and my mood, I’d either fork over $1, or tell her, I’d catch up with her later…and never get around to it.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
It’s a wedding reception/celebration of marriage, not a fundraiser.
Especially to be so pushy about it – I don’t personally agree with Dollar Dances, but at least it seems like it’s at the guest’s option, and there’s no bad feeling or whatever if you don’t dance with the bride or groom. Having someone going table to table, putting guests in the spotlight and demanding money is different. Nobody wants to look like a cheapskate in front of all their friends – that’s pushy and rude.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
I have never heard of this at a wedding. The closest thing to this that I have seen at a wedding is a dollar dance.
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
Ewww….. this is when the word “tacky” is very appropriate.
And they never announced a winner? Not cool.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
I have heard of this before…even participated a time or two…but NEVER at a wedding. LOL! That’s just weird. Of course we don’t do the dollar dance thing either. Who sells raffle tickets at a wedding?…sorry but that’s not cute.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
We do this at bowling, but I can’t imagine doing it at a wedding.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
@summerhill: I think it is a regional thing. It is popular in smaller towns. My Maid/Matron of Honor had a similiar thing at her wedding in May. I thought it was odd. But I seemed to be the only one (I was also one of the few who was from a big city in another province).
Post # 15
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Blushing bee
It is kinda similar to a dollar dance… and I’m not a fan of those either, although I know they’re done pretty often. But with a dollar dance, at least it’s like you’re “paying for a dance”… and it’s optional! Which in my mind is different from just being ordered to fork over your cash!
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
Weddings are totally turning into a cash grab. I went to one last summer where instead of clinking glasses for the couple to kiss, you put a dollar in a jar. Let me just say, my wallet stayed safely tucked in my purse.
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