(Closed) Is it necessary to gift FI's step-mom?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we/would you gift FI's step-mom?


    No, not necessary


  • Post # 3
    7225 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would. Just because she didn’t raise him from childhood doesn’t mean she’s not important. If his biological mother is still in the picture, I’d still give step-mom something unless they are not close/bad blood/etc.


    Post # 4
    1263 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    While I’m all in favour of “no gift is necessary or it wouldn’t be a gift,” you’re giving the gift to thank them for support during wedding planning – if the step-mother has been a support during the wedding planning, then give her a gift. Her raising your fiance has nothing to do with whether or not she supports him/you now.

    Also, assuming the bracelets aren’t too expensive, where’s the harm in getting her one? It’s a nice gesture and it doesn’t hurt you two in any way.

    Post # 5
    1308 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    i would give a gift. we did and step mom in law wasnt technically step mom til 7 months after our wedding.. i am assuming step mom has been in fiances life for 5-10 years?? she is family..

    Post # 6
    1884 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’d give her a gift as well- I wasn’t the nicest person to my step mom growing up and I know I put her through hell a few times so I’d consider it a way to wipe the slate clean and say you appreciate them taking it all in stride…. Plus, just think about how horrible she would feel if she found out the other ladies & gents got a gift but she didn’t? I know you said you were gifting in private but you never know, someone might be showing the gift off at an event, she overhears… Just best to go ahead & include her…. 

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