(Closed) Is it necessary??

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’m right there with you. Kind of overkill. But they can be cute and if some want to spend money and paper on it, good for them!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i didn’t send them. i think i’s silly!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

our wedding will require a transatlantic flight for about one fourth of the guests, so we sent them out about a year in advance to let everyone know.  Also, if your wedding is during “wedding season” – i.e. April to Sept – your guests may have a bunch of weddings and events and vacations and will need to figure out their schedules.  I have friends who have every weekend in July and August already completely booked!  That being said, you don’t need an official card – you could just spread the word informally, it won’t make a difference.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I don’t think they are absolutely necessary but I think if you are having a destination wedding or a wedding right around a holiday it is a good idea to send them if you want to make sure your guests can set aside the time.  This gives them enough time to plan for flights and/or accommodations around busy season.  We are planning to do them because ours is right after the holidays and in the winter.  

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I didn’t send out formal save the dates but for our out of town guests, I sent out an email a couple months in advance with our wedding webite and hotel information so they could try to plan ahead and figure things out if they wanted to come. I don’t think save the dates are necessary at all unless you have a lot of out of town guests/destination wedding or your wedding is over a Holiday weekend.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Because our wedding is over a holiday weekend (4th of July), we sent Save-The-Date Cards.  Honestly, I really enjoyed designing them – it was a “practice run” for the invitations I designed and am putting together.  If a lot of your guests are local and your wedding isn’t near a holiday, they probably aren’t needed unless you want to.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I wanted to have them because those save the date magnets were so hard to resist! lol also i have A LOT of family coming in from out of town and I wanted to let them know way ahead of time so they could plan accordingly.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I think it’s nice to let anyone who needs to buy a flight ahead of time.  But…we only got engaged about 4 mo before our wedding and got really lucky that tickets (well more like the euro was up) were a good buy for the peopel coming over. 

So I’d let people know ahead of time if flights are involved.  But you don’t have to do it through the mail or tell everyone.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I did them because all of my fiance’s guests are from out of town and we don’t correspond with any of them on a regular basis.

I think if your wedding is local and with local guests, then maybe you don’t need them.

For me personally, I have a TERRIBLE memory with dates and I book a lot of stuff in advance.  For every single wedding that I haven’t received a save the date for, I have always accidentally scheduled myself for something else.  I ended up scheduling myself for a business trip to Chicago during the weekend of my friend’s wedding because I didn’t have that reminder on my fridge to look at. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it’s useful for out of town guests and if you’re getting married in high wedding season or on a holiday weekend. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We did a video Save the Date and emailed them out to everyone.  It was a good excuse to eat cake 🙂  I wouldn’t have bothered with printed ones.  My Future Sister-In-Law did email ones via Paperless Post, great service if you end up going that way (they looked great and she could tell when people opened them).

My bottom line with everything wedding related: I’m only doing it if Fiance and I are excited about doing it.  🙂

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper

It’s not necessary unless you think a lot of guests wouldn’t be able to come (holiday weekend, destination wedding, etc) without prior notice. Many brides find them to be a fun way to announce the wedding ahead of time, but you certainly don’t have to, especially if the money can be better used elsewhere.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

For us, people started asking us about when the wedding was going to be and what hotels they should stay at and whether they should book their timeshare about two seconds after we got engaged! We sent our Save-The-Date Cards about 9 months before the wedding with the wedding website address so people could find hotel information.

For myself, I really appreciate getting a STD. I’m a very busy person and 2 months advance notice for an event on a weekend, especially if it requires travelling, is usually not enough.

So all in all, it’s obviously not necessary, but I think finding a way to tell people your date is important so they can make sure to have the time free and make their work and travel arrangements. You could call people, email, etc if you don’t want to send something. We did very inexpensive postcards for our Save-The-Date Cards.

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