Post # 1
I’ve noticed that lately Im happy for friends that are pregnant but I can’t stand my BIL’s pregnant gf or him -.- it’s annoying! I can’t stand them… My blood boils when I’m around them… Idk why I’m OK with other people’s pregnancy, but when it comes to them or certain family members being pregnant, I just hate it… Everytime they come around it pisses me off to the point where I rather stay in my room or leave. I can’t stand them at all! Yesterday I was basically getting “rushed” out of MY bathroom because she had to use it -.-. She’s 3 months, not 7 or 9… She can fucking hold it! So when they banged and told me to “hurry v needs to go” I said “she can fucking wait, I’m using it!” Then my Brother-In-Law said “she’s pregnant, she can’t hold it” and that’s when I just told him “and? I was pregnant before too, and TWICE, she can fucking hold it! She’s not that far along to where it’s fucken leaking out of her yet! So she can wait!” And all I hear is a loud knock on my door as if he got mad, (which I don’t really give a shit) so I took my sweet ass time. I honestly don’t care for them… They swear she’s crippled other than pregnant… I’m tired of hearing the constant “my pants don’t fit” or the famous “ugh… I’m getting so fat” “I’m nauseated” and this and that.. ughhhh!!!!!!! I mean FUCK! That’s what happens when you get pregnant! Seriously, if you’re gonna bitch about these things bitch to him! I’ve been through it so I know what it’s like but I didn’t complain or act like I couldn’t do shit for myself! I still cleaned, cooked, did laundry and more! I didn’t get lazy and act like I was incapable of doing anything because I was pregnant! She wanted a baby and that’s the shit that comes with it. I don’t see a reason for me to treat her any special or differently just because she opened her legs and got knocked up. It’s nothing new nor a miracle either like they SWEAR it is -.- I know this might sound bitter to some and some may even think I’m being “jealous” or whatever but I’m not. I just can’t stand her or him. I’m trying to understand why I feel this way towards them, and my only thought is, maybe it’s because I know I won’t have to deal with my friends babies EVERYDAY like I would theirs? I guess just knowing that they and their kid are going to be around me whether I like it or not is what bothers me? I’m not sure but I honestly didn’t feel bad when she was having a threatened miscarriage either… I know it’s wrong and I’m trying my hardest not to be like this but I can’t help it. I’m praying like crazy cause I was brought up better then this but idk what’s going on with me :/ can anyone help me understand this?
(NO RUDE COMMENTS PLEASE. I KNOW IM WRONG FOR IT. IM JUST TRYING TO UNDERSTAND WHY)
Post # 2
Nope, that’s not normal. And I’m not trying to be rude at all…it’s just that those feelings you have and the way you express them are really nasty. I think you need to dig a little deeper to find out where this is coming from, and in the meantime remember that it’s a personal issue and don’t take it out on them (ie taking longer in the bathroom just to be petty).
Post # 4
That’s a lot of anger in one post…
Post # 6
You know it’s not normal. It isn’t healthy either.
Post # 7
You need to dig deep down and find some patience and understanding. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
Post # 8
Find a way to turn off the rude. Seriously. You intentionally taking your time because you’re annoyed that she has to pee? What the heck is that?
Not a miracle? We had to try for three years and pay over 20k for fertility treatment to get pregnant. It’s a pretty big miracle to us. You may not have the entire story of what they went through to get to this point.
Just because you experienced pregnancy one way doesn’t mean it’s that way for everyone.
Post # 9
No that’s not normal. Do you hate them for some reason? Did they do something to you? You’re being really rude and a huge jerk but I’m not sure why. Do you have anger issues? Maybe seeing a therapist would help.
Post # 10
Your attitude is pretty gross.
Oh and no, it’s not normal. If you hate them and their unborn child so much, maybe you should move out?
Post # 11
You can’t exactly go faster when you’re using the toilet, so it was a little frustrating for them to try to rush you out, but your reaction seems over the top. Roll your eyes and let it go– it sounds like she’s being a bit of a “woe is me” kind of person, and the family is playing into it, but it really should be a minor frustration to you and not so rage-inducing. Let it go.
Post # 12
This is MY house so I have no reason to leave. I do have anger… And a lot of it. I’ll admit that. And it did not cost them 20K to get pregnant either… She got here and within a month she was pregnant… No big story or struggles behind their fertility. So it doesn’t really mean much to me. I think it’s the whole “woe is me” that another bee mentioned that’s getting to me… I don’t feel I have to praise her every step just cause she’s pregnant like everyone else is. And I think the fact that I’m seeing everyone else doing it gets me even madder. She’s pregnant, that’s it. And you’re right @almostaudrey you LITERALLY can’t rush the restroom… This isn’t the first time that’s happened and it’s really getting on my nerves. Having to witness that everytime I come out of my home and they are here is really annoying. And I feel that she KNOWS she can get her way with basically everyone but me, so she takes advantage of it on purpose. No one here can tell me that she can’t get up and get her own cup because she’s pregnant… She’s acting like she lost a leg or something. I’m tired of it… I’ve been putting up with this type of crap since she found out she was pregnant and I’m just NOW speaking up about it. Idc if she’s pregnant… She can wait for her turn to use the bathroom, she can get up and fix her own plate, she can sweep, mop, wash dishes, and put her own shoes on and hang her own damn clothes… She’s just lazy and spoiled. And I’m not going to be treating her like everyone else does and making it worse… She’s basically being spoon fed. She’s 22 and doesn’t know how to bills, doesn’t have her d.l and didn’t finish school. I have no pity for her like everyone else does. She chose to make those decisions so now she has to learn how to handle them on her own. She’s going to be a mother! What mother doesn’t know how to bills or use a credit card????? But instead of learning or teaching herself, she has everyone else doing it. So yeah, I wall be petty, I’m NOT going to do what everyone else is doing cause that’s only going to worsen the problem… I know it’s wrong of me to think that, but at the same time, It’s not wrong. I feel it’s wrong a bad that they’re giving in like that and at the end she’ll learn the hard way. Which I feel is what she gets being the way she is.
Post # 13
I had to pee the entire time I was pregnant. It’s hormones, not just the baby bumping up against your bladder. Calm the eff down. Everyone experiences pregnancies differently, and you are being really petty.
If she doesn’t know how to “adult,” then she’ll be at a disadvantage for the rest of her life, or if something happens to your brother. It’s really not your concern. Let her use the bathroom, FFS.
Post # 14
Each woman’s experience with pregnancy is different. While you were able to do a lot while carrying your babies, which is incredible, some women don’t have the same pain tolerances or motivation to try very hard. I think you may of pinpointed part of the reason why you’re upset though, you mentioned it didn’t cost her $20k to get pregnant, that it was easy for her. You may just need to steer clear for awhile until you can sort those feelings out.
Post # 15
I usually hate when bees post the overdone “you need counseling” advice, but in this case I think it is warranted. You sound incredibly angry and over the top in a lot of aspects. Maybe some anger management and talk therapy will help you get to the root of your issues. If not, I doubt people will want to be around you much longer.
Also, you are the mother of children. That kind of behavior is really not acceptable when you are a role model for children.