(Closed) Is it normal for a guy to look at other girls…

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Bumble bee

Yeah its normal, and he probably doesn’t realize hes doing it . I look at guys too. Hey my Fiance and I always say you are allowed to browse the menu as long as you don’t order. lol It is normal, it is human nature.

Post # 33
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Sugar Beekeeper

@unknown2012: It is normal for SOME guys to look at other women, not all of them.

My ex-FI used to stare at women, especially their chest region, and it made me extremely uncomfortable. While I am not naive to assume that men don’t notice a beautiful woman he doesn’t have to stare with his mouth open (drool running out)…come on!

My Fiance has never been one to stare or oogle other women and I appreciate it. I see it as a sign of respect for me and our relationship. Again, I’m sure he notices a pretty lady but he sure as hell doesn’t make a big deal out of it. I should marry him. 😉

Post # 34
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Totally normal.  I notice attractive men (and women) and DH notices attractive women.  We’re in a relationship, not dead! 🙂

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Fiance calls Mandy Moore his tv girlfriend and waves at her everytime we see her… so I got my own TV boyfriends lol

Post # 36
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Sugar bee

I think there’s a difference between checking someone out or looking at them because movement caught your eye. My guy looks at everyone, female or male. There’s sometimes a hot chick that we both notice but we don’t secretly check people out. We usually talk about it. But I’ve watched him to see if he’s checking them out or just observing another human being. It’s almost always the 2nd. It doesn’t bother me. I know he’s attracted to me and that’s good enough.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Rouquine: “she has a really big forehead…”

Classic!

When my Fiance was my BF and we were only dating about 2-3 months (but offically in a relationship), I would catch him seriously distracted when we were in a huge public place (like a stadium).  He does have a form of ADD, but I would have to be like “HEY!”. Lol : )  Because he was so distracted by everything that he wouldn’t even hear me or anything. He stopped it soon after : ) I don’t care if he glances. 

Post # 38
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Busy Beekeeper

I think it’s normal to be aware of your surroundings and to notice other people.  I think guys DO notice other women and there’s nothing wrong with that.  However, if your Fiance is doing it in a way that makes you uncomfortable, then I think you need to talk about it.

There’s a difference between a glance and a gawk, IMO.  When it turns from glancing to gawking – and gawking is unacceptable in my book.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@danicalifornia: I swear my Fiance has the biggest crush on her, but he won’t admit it.  It’s so obvious!  I was like, guys do not go out of their way to watch Mandy Moore movies lol

Post # 40
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Helper bee

It’s normal and okay to notice and look at attractive people, as long as you don’t act on it. I would be a bit weirded out if he was looking at a family member though.

Post # 41
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@Treejewel19: <— agreed!

I’ve never caught DH looking at another girl and it’s not like he’d be very good at hiding it if he was… I think I notice people around us more than he does.. and if I say “did you see that girl.. she wasn’t all “in there”” he’s like “huh… where.. oh.. yea.. she’s not.” lol

It is “widely” seen at normal but I also think that’s b/c it’s became widely acceptable that “men are just men and they can’t control themselves b/c well they’re controlled by the head in their pants.” Yea.. against popular belief men can be honorable and respectable and control themselves… whether they’re in your presence or alone.

Even more of an issue though is that he gets defensive about it as opposed to just admiting it and apologizing that it hurt you (whether he thinks it’s wrong or not). He is holding himself in higher regard than he is holding your heart and that just can’t be acceptable if you want a relationship/one day marriage to work.

(hugs) for your stress and hope you can get it all worked out.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee

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@danicalifornia: lol My TV boyfriend is Ryan Reynolds, my Fiance loves Jessica Alba. haha its all in good fun.

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