Post # 1
My mom told me it was but I was just wondering.
My BMs are wearing a plum lace dress. My Future Mother-In-Law bought a navy dress very similar and is niw talking about getting a purple dress to wear instead.
I’m nit happy with either choice but unfortunately have to keep my mouth shut. Is this typical or is she just trying to make me mad?
Post # 3
That is wrong.
The mom’s can compliment the bridal party dresses but in no way should they have the same color or shade.
They should look like moms and not the bridal party. There is a reason why there is bridesmaid dress and MOB/MOG dresses. No similar styles.
Post # 4
Parents can look coherent. Our dads will be in the same tux as the groom and best man, but vest and tie will be different. FI’s mum got a grey dress to wear that compliments the guys’ grey tuxes. She is not in the same purple as the bridesmaids. My mom may wear grey or purple, but she isn’t going to aim for the exact same shade, style, or material, by any means. But general same color? Doesn’t bother me. It’s not a requirement though.
Post # 5
My Mom wore blue, like my Dad and like my BMs.
My Mother-In-Law wore purple, since Father-In-Law, groom, and GMs were wearing red!
I loved that everyone decided to coordinate! (I didn’t ask them to)
Post # 6
@wisher558: I specifically told both mom’s no Navy blue, because that is the Bridesmaid or Best Man color. One mom got a pale blue and one is in purple, which still coordinates but is not the same. I think they should be different, so the BM’s stand out.
Post # 7
IMO the mom’s should not match the bridesmaids. My mom thought she should wear the SAME dress as my MoH, so I had to crush that idea real quick, lol.
Post # 8
The colors should compliment, but should NOT be identical!
Post # 9
a friend of mine’s mom wore the same shade of dress. she purchased it at david’s bridal, along with the matching shoes (which all the bridesmaids wore.)
it wasn’t horrible, but a little comical to me. i would definitely NOT let that fly at my wedding.
Post # 10
My BMs are wearing black satin, and my mother is wearing a black lace gown. I couldn’t be happier – I love black!
Post # 11
I HAVE SEEN IT AND I THINKS ITS NICE WHEN ITS A PLANNED COLOR WHAT EVER THEY CHOICE TO WEAR
FOR EXAMPLE IF THE CREAM AND GOLD, MOM LOOKS KINDA OUT OF PLACE IN HOT PINK FYI
Post # 12
Thanks ladies. I feel better about my opinion now.
I nust keep reminding myself that she’s the one who is going to look silly for trying to match them. It would be different if she didn’t kniw what the dresses were but she does. She didn’t do this for FBIL/FSIL wedding so I guess she’s just being difficult.
Post # 13
Do you not get along with your FMIL? I don’t understand why you think she’d do this specifically to make you mad. As for the colors, does it really matter that much? Is there honestly a risk that people will confuse the MOG for a BM? In the big picture, this is a small issue.
Post # 15
Moms have the prerogative to wear whatever they like. If they want to coordinate or even match it is totally up to them. Likewise, they don’t have to coordinate if they choose not to.
Post # 16
Etiquettte Snob here… lol
When it comes to the “feel & look” of the Wedding it is The Bride who sets the tone.
Traditionally she picks out the colour for her Bridesmaids. And helps her Mother choose a dress (and colour) as to “her vision” … so it could be matching, similar, or completely different.
After the MOB has chosen her dress, it is her role to inform the MOG of her choice, and the MOG is meant to choose something to COMPLIMENT the MOB’s Dress… but not upstage the woman (the MOB is the most honoured Guest… and sometimes the Hostess at the Wedding). IF the MOG has any concerns, she should discuss them with The Bride, as it is the Bride’s Vision for the day that matters… and The Bride should have the clearest idea of what all the primary women (Bride – Bridesmaids – MOB) are wearing.
So you could have the BMs in Royal Blue, MOB in Sky Blue, and MOG in Navy (monochromatic, all Blues)
OR… BMs in Pink, MOB in Burgundy, and MOG in Lilac or other shade of Purple (same colour range / side of the colour wheel)
OR… The Moms could just be in rich colours… or Earthtones, etc.
As I said, whatever vision The Bride sees when it comes to photographs.
Hope this helps,
RANT – This isn’t your fault… but I do wish that more Brides, MOBs, MOGs etc… would brush up / read up on what their roles are when it comes to a Wedding… there would be less stepping on toes as a result (and expense mistakes, or hurt feelings in the end)