(Closed) Is it normal for your MOH to start inviting her family?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee

Nope, and I would kindly tell her that as much as you would love for her family to be there, you do not have the space or the budget to expand your guest list beyond what you and your Fiance have decided on.

She may not know she is being rude, so go with that assumption.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’s odd. Even if you have a relationship with them. :  When my best friend got married, I was her moh & some of my siblings were on the B list (she brought it up because she didn’t want to offend me.. which.. it didn’t, she has a HUGE family, so they couldn’t fit everyone in the first round of invites). Even though she has a relationship with them, I didn’t expect her to invite my whole family, although. Well, really even any of them, it was completely her decision. And I’m inviting her mom to our wedding, but not the other members of the family that I’ve hung out with (because of space/$$).

Maybe she doesn’t realize the expense and space issues that go into a guest list? :

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@lefeymw: yes that is a much more streamlined way to say what I was trying to get out. 😉 Also your pic is very cute!

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

No one should invite anyone to your wedding, regardless of who they are in the wedding. 

EDIT: Unless they are the groom. 😛

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Are you sure they are actually coming for the wedding – and not just coming out for the trip/vacation (you mentioned flights, so I assume they live far from you).  The reason I ask, is that my Maid/Matron of Honor lives on the other side of the country and she also flew in with her husband, 2 kids, and mother. BUT – only her husband came with her to the actual wedding. The rest of her family that flew out did their own thing. They just used our wedding as an excuse to take a family vacation to DC together.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You should have told her right away that the numbers are tight so if at all she can bring X number of people. But for her to bring 7 people without you approving it is not very nice

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Absurd.  Unless you invited them they aren’t invited and shouldn’t have a place at your wedding.  You need to speak w/ your Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

wait a minute.  Your Maid/Matron of Honor invites people so you send them an invite, your Maid/Matron of Honor the invites more people and you are mad.

Yeah you should have told her something before and never sent an invite.  I think you should tell your Maid/Matron of Honor firmly NO MORE but you’re kinda stuck with the others.

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