Post # 1
Ugh.. I hate feeling like this and I am really trying not to let it get to me but here is the issue. My step sister got engaged in November and we arent that close to honestly Im happy for her in a “good for her” type of way. Well she has been nothing but rude to my mom from day one and then told my step dad that she didnt add me and my siblings to her list because she didnt know if he (my step dad) wanted us on his list or not. So now fast foward to now. My mom and I are very close and I was trying to talk to her today about the plans that my SO and I have made and my step dad kind of barged in and started talking about his daughters planning. I think its wonderful she is getting married and everything but I sort of feel like my “stuff” isnt as important as hers. I dont want to say anything to my mom because she is under enough stress with my step dad as they dont agree on anything right now with her wedding and there is alot of tension going on. Am I overreacting?
Post # 3
I’ve found that I am very sensitive to how much I think people care about my event. Even though I have a great relationship with my mom, I am very sensitive to anything I perceive as innattentive. I think it goes with the territory. For you, add the stress of some tension in the relationship, and you have the perfect little rain cloud of bad feeling.
I think you are totally normal.
Post # 4
Try not to let it bother you. What you perceive as inattention may be her trying to convince your SD that she cares about your SS’s wedding. If I were your mom that would be really stressful, so try not to be too mad. But are your feelings normal? Yes. Yes they are. Heck, I’m mad for you!
Post # 5
Do you think maybe it’s hard for your SS or SF to take your planning ‘seriously’ because you aren’t technically engaged yet?
I say this with all love, as another Waiting Bee, because I’ve seen it happen too many times – people are so stuck on the idea that you have to have a ring on your finger to be capable of making decisions or planning a wedding, and that’s just not true! Maybe they’re dealing with that?
Post # 6
I guess thats a possibility. I never really thought of it that way.