(Closed) Is it normal to have to pay to attend a bachelorette party?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sexisammy4u: It depends on what the party is and if EVERYONE is putting in 50 just the BM and MOH might not be able to  to do it all on there own.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I had thought about having one of those stripper pole dancer teachers for my bachelorette party, but each girl would have to pay $30 for the class, so yeah, sometimes there is some contribution, but mainly it’s to help pay for the bride, so yeah, I have heard of it, but I told my girls I didn’t want anything to cost too much money, so we scrapped that idea.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Every Bachelorette party I’ve been to all the girls have contributed. But, that includes everything for the night and no one needed to worry about whipping out their wallets to pay for drinks or food all night.

Generally, the MOH and BMs plan the party and probably contribute more than the rest, but yes, I think it’s normal that guests pay at least something for the night.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

As PP’s said, it really depends on what you’re doing. 

For my party, we had it split in 3 parts- early part of the day was fun/lunchy/games, then we went to dinner, then we went back to the house for a few more games, hot tub, and hanging out/spending the night/drinking. 

The only contribution was for my dinner, but everyone had to pay for their own meal, so technically there was that, too. 

My MOH paid for the majority, paying for all the food during the first part of the day and for snacks in the evening. 

But, we were fortunate to have someone’s house we could borrow, so we didn’t have to pay for a room. That saved my MOH a lot of money. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have always had to pay to attend.  It’s not a “cover charge”, but just covering the cost of some stuff.  Usually I pay for my share of the limo, which usually comes out to about $40 plus cover, drinks, food etc. later on.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve definitely heard of this happening, but I personally wouldn’t charge people.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was invited to one in vegas over a 3 day weekend.  We had to pitch in for rooms and we took a pole dancing class so we had to cover that.  Then there was meals and such.  The MOH covered a lot more that the girls attending did.  But it was still about a $300-$400 (each) weekend when it was all said and done. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Every bachelorette party I have ever been to, and there has been 9 already, I’ve had to pay money for. I always thought that was typical. It would get awfully expensive for the bridesmaids to throw the party without help. We are having a party bus take us wine tasting for the day and it is going to be about $60/person for everything. The shower however is a different story. My maid and matron of honor are paying for that all themselves. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It’s completely normal to ask people to pay.  The last bachelorette party I went to, the invite stated the costs and the breakdown (wine tasting, limo, lunch, hotel room, etc.) and it didn’t seem  weird or rude or anything.  I think it’s a lot to ask that your bridesmaids and maid of honor pay for everybody.

Post # 12
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Newbee

Have to agree with redhead46. I feel that it’s not unfair if it is clearly stated that contributions are necessary and for what purpose. I think up to $50 is a reasonable amount of money, and I wouldn’t want my future MOH to have to pay for the whole thing.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just threw my best friend a bachelorette party. We went to dinner and then went dancing at a bar/nightclub. Attendees paid for their own dinner (I paid for the bride), and the nightclub ended up being free entry. One of the attendees bought us a table as a gift for the bride, and everyone bought their own drinks if they wanted them (again, except the bride). I provided ring pops, name tags and penis straws. Everyone was fine with it. Some were concerned about the cost of cover, but I decided beforehand that I could pay for it if needed.

I don’t think it’s rude to ask guests to pay as long as it’s upfront. It would suck to have someone show up to a party and the hostess say “I’m so glad to see you! Did you bring $50.00 to contribute?” but a note included with the invtitation stating the cost would be okay by me. I do think, however, it is courteous to not go overboard. When I was deciding where to go for dinner, I chose the fast casual restaurant over the sitdown Lebanese place because the sitdown place was 20.00+/entree and I wasn’t comfortable asking the guests (none of whom can really afford that) to pay that when there were other options.  I also chose a bar/nightclub so then we would only have to pay one cover instead of two–the piano bar my friend loves has a 5.00 cover the night we would have gone. So, I think it’s acceptable to ask attendees to pay,, but I also think it’s courteous on the party planner’s part to keep costs reasonable.  

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I threw a bachelorette party and hosted a dinner party which I paid for and cooked, and then we all went to a bar and everyone paid for their own drinks and I paid for mine and the bride’s drinks.

I think it depends on the type of event the MOH is throwing…if there was a trip to a winery or an activity such as a spa day, etc, I definitely think everyone attending should pitch in (if they are able to).

 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’ve never attended a free stagette. I’ve always had to pay my own way.

The MOH & BM ORGANIZE… (and generally pay the bride’s way) everyone else is expected to pay up.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Usually everyone chips in for some.

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