(Closed) Is it normal to know you are getting engaged?

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I knew. He said he would propose before the end of winter and we had talked about it lots. He surprised me but I still knew it was coming (: We also kind of picked out the ring together, I chose the setting and he chose the centre stone and prongs.

It didn’t make anything less special (: I loved that we did it as a team.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I knew a proposal was coming in general, but he surprised me on the exact timing.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I did not have a proposal at all–we decided as a couple that we wanted to get married and so we were engaged (very quietly) for several months.  We designed a ring, picked it up together and I started wearing it.  We had a mushy “post engagement proposal dinner” a few months later but that was all.  My engagement is not any less special because instead of getting down on one knee, he handed me a ring box in the parking lot, smiling because he knew I wanted to wear it NOW.  I am getting married to him!  I’m so excited!

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My DH called me when he was intoxicated from his parents house (we live together I stayed home cause I have school) 8 hours away. Told me he talked to his mother and he his going to get his grandmas wedding ring for me. That was in Jan. and he “proposed” in Feb.

I say “proposed” because he was acting super weird all day, and I knew he was going to do it. Finally I said “you mide as well give it to me” then he gave me the ring we kissed, and that was it. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I know I am getting engaged around Christmas of this year. My BF and I already picked out the ring together. We put it on layaway because we didn’t have that chunk of cash to drop right then (BF had car repairs and I am a broke student), and we don’t use credit cards. So it’ll be paid off around Christmas.

Even though I chose the ring, I haven’t seen it all in one piece yet. We bought it at Shane Co, where you choose the setting and stone separately, and we added a halo head to the setting. So I have seen it in 3 pieces, lol. I know it’s the perfect ring for me, but it’ll still be surprising when he proposes and I see the finished product!

I don’t think knowing my BF is going to propose or seeing the ring has ruined any surprise. If anything, it gives me something concrete to look forward to! I don’t know exactly how or when he’s going to do it, so that part will still be a surprise to me. And I’m glad we picked out the ring together. He told me that if he had picked it out himself, he probably would have gotten a solitaire, which I really don’t care for. So I’m glad I’ll have a ring that I will really love wearing forever!

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I know that mine is coming and wish I didn’t. but honestly if I didn’t get to choose out my ring, I would still be thinking “oh my god is he going to do it soon, is he thinking about it” but now that we chose the ring, I get to wait for him to propose. I am glad I know though because we know we want to be together and we want to get married. so now I don’t have to wonder if he’s thinking about it or if he wants to, etc. 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it is more common to discuss marriage together versus having your boyfriend all of a sudden drop a huge bomb on you lol.  It is a commitment you are making together, so it only seems natural to talk it out and make sure both are on the same page. I knew my Fiance was going to propose. And I was still super surprised when he did. Knowing about the proposal did not take any of the magic away from it; it was still more special and romantic than I could have imagined! Although the wait can be hard, it is a very exciting time!

I would just let it be. Even if you know he will propose on Labor Day, he may still surprise you as to when and how! Trust that he knows what he’s doing, hopefully ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m sure he wants to surprise you as much as you want to be surprised!

Post # 24
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Helper bee

We’ve basically been engaged for months, but not “officially.” When he asked my parents’ permission, my mom was so excited about it being a surprise that we didn’t have the heart to tell her that I already knew he was asking them and that we already know what venue we want, etc. So at this point, we’re waiting for the jeweler to finish making my ring…hopefully will be very soon because I suck at not talking about all of the planning we’ve done! ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I knew it would be soon (we talked about it and I showed him rings that I liked) and I totally accidentally called him out when he was planning to propose.  I literally said “why are you acting like this.  Are you about to propose?” he was.  whoops! lol

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

My fi told me a few days ago he is going to save for an engagement ring and my dad didn’t even ask my mum to marry him, he asked my grandmother’s permission to marry her then booked the reception! So I think some guys do it differently ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@ladye6047:  YES! i knew he was planning to proposing i just didn’t know when.

he and i were talking about marriage a lot at that time.

he tried to talk about it in the past but i told him i was not ready for that.

he later told me he wanted to a lot sooner then he did.

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@rachie205:  I think you are my spiritual twin! I also ruin all surprises and I accidentally ( kind of) found out he bought the ring.

 

It definitely doesnt make it less special! We have bene looking at rings for well over a year, and like I mentioned, I accidentally found out the ring has been purchased ( he doesnt know I know) and I know that it will not make it any less special. It will be perfect because I get to marry the man I love.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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@Mrs. Mink:  I’ve said that! – But not taking credit for you hearing it ๐Ÿ™‚  It’s been my mantra basically for this whole pick out a ring, talk about timelines, but don’t get too specific approach to the engagement. 

OP – It will still be a suprise and exciting, even though you have a general idea of a timeline.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I knew and I picked out the ring but it certainly didn’t make it any less special or meaningful. Espically since he did it on Christmas morning in front of his entire family. It was amazing and it would have been equally amazing if I didn’t know it was coming.

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I knew.  I wasn’t absolutely sure, but I had reason to believe that a ring had been bought, and the day that it happened, there were a lot of signs, since he was acting weird!  We also had talked very openly about what kind of ring I wanted and how he intended to do it. 

Honestly, it didn’t take away from the specialness at all.  In a way, it contributed to it, since I already had an idea about what it would be like, so my fantasies leading up to it were all very close to the reality!  Trust me, my hands were still shaking and I laughed like an idiot when it actually happened.  I was still shocked and ecstatic. It doesn’t need to be a surprise for you to be shocked and ecstatic when it actually happens!!!

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