Post # 1
I’ve found a dress that I LOVE, but I can’t seem to bite the bullet and just go for it! I keep on second-guessing myself….it wasn’t what I originally wanted, it’s slightly more than I wanted to spend even though I’m ok with the price, what if I get tired of seeing it in all my photos and wish I had gone for a simpler design…GAAAH!
Is this normal?? I know I’m not the type of person to have the moment where I tear up and KNOW for sure that it’s the dress. I think I’ve found the dress but I can’t seem to commit!
Post # 3
i think its perfectly normal to feel that way and i would say most brides do not have that overwhelming feeling that they found the perfect dress.I was torn between two dresses and bought one of them – i had serious dress regret for a while because i just wasnt sure if i picked the right one (im so indecisive as it is, i dont think i would have been 100% happy either way) but on my wedding day i fell in love with my dress all over again – i felt beautiful and i was pleasantly surprised at how well it looked in photographs.
my suggestion, go try on some more – go to one or two more bridal salons and try some on for fun and see if anything piques your interest – if not and you find yourself still thinking of this dress then go ahead and buy it!
Post # 4
Yes it is normal because it is such a huge decision.
My dress was totally different than what I wanted, cost more than I wanted to spend and I questioned my decision for months. In the end my gut feeling was right and I have fallen whole heartedly in love with my dress. I didn’t however have that moment of crying when I bought the dress but rather just knew it was the one.
I would recommend that you shop a tad more. If you are comparing every new dress to the dress you mentioned than you have your answer. Any photos of you in the dress? What dress is it?
Post # 5
Yup, I had that EXACT same issue.
I found a dress that I really loved but it was totally different than what I thought I wanted and at the very top of the price range my parents set.
I went back and forth between that dress and one that was more my “vision” and much less expensive.
It took going back and forth 3 times with my family, friends, and Future Mother-In-Law to FINALLY decide the very different dress that I LOVED was the one.
I never had that teary moment where it was just “the one” but having just had my second fitting I am so happy with my choice.
Post # 6
@Treejewel19:It’s dress 2 in this post http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/follow-up-am-i-too-pear-shaped-for-this-dress-pick-a-dress
Before I tried on that dress, I thought that the Vera Wang Ethel (#1) was probably the one. Then after trying on dress 2 (Rivini), I couldn’t stop thinking about that dress!
I guess my main concern is that it’s SO different from what I originally wanted (Melissa Sweet Dora), and since it has that big ruffly bottom I’m worried I might get tired of seeing it, versus a more classic gown.
Post # 7
There is no “normal” just what is happening with you. I found that some of the “rules” didn’t happen with me. I didn’t have a lightening moment. I didn’t cry over any dress. In fact, I had about 6-7 dresses that I liked and eventually I realized what I wanted.
Over the next few days, try to daydream about your wedding day and thinking about which dress feels right when you imagine those pictures in your head.
You’ll be fine. I’ve seen hundreds of dresses since I got mine (I’ve been volunteering at Church Street Bridal) and while I can gush and fawn over almost every wedding gown, I know that mine are meant for me. 🙂
Post # 8
I’m constantly stressing about finding the dress. I’ve convinced myself it’s totally normal. 🙂 haha.
Post # 9
I didn’t have that issue but when i know i want something i just know and i dont have any doubts. my wedding dress was the second dress i EVER tried on. i loved it and i still love over a year later. Just go with your gut, it never lies.
Post # 10
I have also not had the emotional “moment.” This is more like serious business to me! I thought I found the dress about 3 times so far. Fortunately last time my mom was like there’s no hurry to place your order. Sure enough I’ve gravitated to another style of dress. It’s been a process for me, the dresses I try on are leading me to what I want – which is very different from what I originally envisioned. Simple trumpet lace —-> ball gown for more effect
> form fitting but with rosettes/flowers.
If you have some time, I’d sit on it for a while. Maybe look around and try on different styles to confirm your decision.
Post # 11
just wanted to add – its a beautiful dress! and looks fantastic on you – i’d still suggest shopping a little more just to be sure- like PP said if you find yourself comparing, you know this is the dress for you 🙂
Post # 12
I’m having the same problem. I keep thinking I’ve found THE dress, but I’m not sure enough so I look a little more and find another style I like… I know have several dresses I love, all in completely different styles, and I have no idea which one to choose. I’ve looked everywhere within an hour drive, lol. Some places more than once. I don’t even want to know how many dresses I’ve tried on.
Post # 13
@cushioney: Ahhhh now I remember. I LOOOVED that dress on you and even said so in the post. It is amazing and fits your body perfectly.
I get what you are saying about the classic versus trend idea but really in the end it is about how you feel now, not 20 years from now.
Keep shopping and see what your thoughts are. If you honestly can’t get over that Rivini then you truly have your answer, that is how I decided.
(PS I had wanted the Adorae or Kendra forever and ended up with Loretta by Sottero and Midgely, again totally different).
Post # 14
I think it’s normal. I tried on many dresses that I loved and ended up really loving two. One dress felt more glamorous in a red carpet kind of way and the other dress made me tear up every time. I finally decided that the one that got me emotional was the one that made me feel like a bride so I got that one.
Post # 15
Usually what I do is to ask a close friend to pick one of the two final dresses for me. And if I feel a happy jump in my stomach, I know that’s the one I want. If I feel a pang of regret, then I know it’s NOT what I’m looking for. I find it works rather well for smaller purchases, but it also works for large ones!
More importantly, DON’T overthink it once you bite the bullet. Cause there are SO many dresses and designs out there…sure to drive any girl crazy!