(Closed) Is it normal to stress over deciding on THE dress?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i think its perfectly normal to feel that way and i would say most brides do not have that overwhelming feeling that they found the perfect dress.I was torn between two dresses and bought one of them – i had serious dress regret for a while because i just wasnt sure if i picked the right one (im so indecisive as it is, i dont think i would have been 100% happy either way) but on my wedding day i fell in love with my dress all over again – i felt beautiful and i was pleasantly surprised at how well it looked in photographs.

my suggestion, go try on some more – go to one or two more bridal salons and try some on for fun and see if anything piques your interest – if not and you find yourself still thinking of this dress then go ahead and buy it!

 

Post # 4
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Yes it is normal because it is such a huge decision.

My dress was totally different than what I wanted, cost more than I wanted to spend and I questioned my decision for months. In the end my gut feeling was right and I have fallen whole heartedly in love with my dress. I didn’t however have that moment of crying when I bought the dress but rather just knew it was the one.

I would recommend that you shop a tad more. If you are comparing every new dress to the dress you mentioned than you have your answer. Any photos of you in the dress? What dress is it?

 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yup, I had that EXACT same issue.

I found a dress that I really loved but it was totally different than what I thought I wanted and at the very top of the price range my parents set.

I went back and forth between that dress and one that was more my “vision” and much less expensive.

It took going back and forth 3 times with my family, friends, and Future Mother-In-Law to FINALLY decide the very different dress that I LOVED was the one.

I never had that teary moment where it was just “the one” but having just had my second fitting I am so happy with my choice.

Post # 7
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1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

There is no “normal” just what is happening with you.  I found that some of the “rules” didn’t happen with me.  I didn’t have a lightening moment.  I didn’t cry over any dress.  In fact, I had about 6-7 dresses that I liked and eventually I realized what I wanted.

Over the next few days, try to daydream about your wedding day and thinking about which dress feels right when you imagine those pictures in your head. 

You’ll be fine.  I’ve seen hundreds of dresses since I got mine (I’ve been volunteering at Church Street Bridal) and while I can gush and fawn over almost every wedding gown, I know that mine are meant for me. 🙂

Post # 8
Member
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m constantly stressing about finding the dress. I’ve convinced myself it’s totally normal. 🙂 haha.

Post # 9
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53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I didn’t have that issue but when i know i want something i just know and i dont have any doubts. my wedding dress was the second dress i EVER tried on. i loved it and i still love over a year later. Just go with your gut, it never lies. Smile

Post # 10
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32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have also not had  the emotional “moment.”  This is more like serious business to me!  I thought I found the dress about 3 times so far.  Fortunately last time my mom was like there’s no hurry to place your order.  Sure enough I’ve gravitated to another style of dress.  It’s been a process for me, the dresses I try on are leading me to what I want – which is very different from what I originally envisioned.   Simple trumpet lace —-> ball gown for more effect


> form fitting but with rosettes/flowers.

If you have some time, I’d sit on it for a while.  Maybe look around and try on different styles to confirm your decision.  

Post # 11
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

just wanted to add – its a beautiful dress! and looks fantastic on you – i’d still suggest shopping a little more just to be sure-  like PP said if you find yourself comparing, you know this is the dress for you 🙂

Post # 12
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2584 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m having the same problem. I keep thinking I’ve found THE dress, but I’m not sure enough so I look a little more and find another style I like… I know have several dresses I love, all in completely different styles, and I have no idea which one to choose. I’ve looked everywhere within an hour drive, lol. Some places more than once. I don’t even want to know how many dresses I’ve tried on.

Post # 13
Hostess
11167 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@cushioney: Ahhhh now I remember. I LOOOVED that dress on you and even said so in the post. It is amazing and fits your body perfectly.

I get what you are saying about the classic versus trend idea but really in the end it is about how you feel now, not 20 years from now.

Keep shopping and see what your thoughts are. If you honestly can’t get over that Rivini then you truly have your answer, that is how I decided.

(PS I had wanted the Adorae or Kendra forever and ended up with Loretta by Sottero and Midgely, again totally different).

 

Post # 14
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1006 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s normal. I tried on many dresses that I loved and ended up really loving two. One dress felt more glamorous in a red carpet kind of way and the other dress made me tear up every time. I finally decided that the one that got me emotional was the one that made me feel like a bride so I got that one.

 

Post # 15
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Usually what I do is to ask a close friend to pick one of the two final dresses for me.  And if I feel a happy jump in my stomach, I know that’s the one I want.  If I feel a pang of regret, then I know it’s NOT what I’m looking for.  I find it works rather well for smaller purchases, but it also works for large ones!

More importantly, DON’T overthink it once you bite the bullet.  Cause there are SO many dresses and designs out there…sure to drive any girl crazy! 

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