(Closed) Is it nutty to start a little bit of planning before a proposal?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’s nutty yes but unless he’s specifically said yes, we’re getting married in ____ the proposal is just a formality.

Post # 32
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Bumble bee

@ruby13:  Ok.  That makes sense now. 

I think it’s ok to pre-plan as long as your SO is on board.  Looking up things online and perhaps even making a few calls (for information) would be ok.  I would not start planning to the point that I need to put down a deposit or actually purchase anything.  Basically, getting ideas for floral arrangements, bridesmaid’s dresses, wedding colors, etc would be about it. 

As far as the dress, I would look online at styles, but I wouldn’t actually try anything on.  Trying on dresses is a very special experience that should be shared with a few people you are close to (ie your mom, sister, MOH).  In My Humble Opinion, it would be awkward to make a dress appointment without an official engagement.  I know that if I went out alone to try on dresses, I’d be afraid I wouldn’t be able to include my mom and sister in my dress-finding experience.  How much fun will it be if they showed up and I already had my heart set on a certain dress?

Post # 34
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Bumble bee

@ruby13:  Oh man!  October 8!  That’s right around the corner!!!  While it would be really exciting to get married so soon, he better get his butt in gear!  Is it possible that he’s waiting to propose on a certain date (ie anniversary or holiday)?

There are times where I really don’t understand men!!!!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee

I would be researching as much as possible!  Is your SO pretty open?  Would he be ok if you discuss plans with him?  How does your SO feel about you pre-planning?  He’s obviously planning to be married by the end of the year, so if I were you, I’d start making a list of all of my ideas and copy and paste pictures of things I like!  It would just be ideal to be able to have your SO’s input.

I think that if you can make a very detailed list, you would be much better off.  Some of the smaller details can actually be more versatile, if that makes sense.  If you pick your wedding colors, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, menu, center pieces, floral arrangements, linens, cake and ceremony music/vows/reading/etc, these things can be implemented regardless of where you wind up having your ceremony or your reception.  I think this is especially important because there may be some venders who may already be booked for the date that you chose, especially since your potential dates are quite soon (ie the October date!).  If this is the case, you could choose an alternate location, but the details would remain the same. 

I wouldn’t actually purchase anything or put money out at this point, but as soon as you are officially engaged, or you decide on an exact date, you’ll have your homework done. 

 

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