Post # 1
I’m not married but I’ve been with my bf for 3 years and we have talked about marrying one day just no exact date in mind.
Anywho, his mom divorced their dad so it was always her and her kids for several years until she recently married 2 years ago. She now lives an hour away with her husband, my bf sees her once a week or two. Sometimes she insists on him and/or his sisters to spend the nights there. This happens once every maybe couple of months. Or when her husband is out of town she doesn’t want to be alone even though she’s only 48, healthy, etc.
I hate spending the night. I enjoy their company but I love sleeping in my own bed. At the same time I feel like maybe once in a while sleepovers aren’t that bad but it seems kind of weird, don’t you think???
Post # 2
Mlim: we spend the night at my in laws a few times a year but they are two hours away so usually it’s if we are exhausted and don’t want to make the trip back or if we’ve had too much to drink and can’t make the drive back. But with your mother in law only being an hour away I think it’s a little odd to insist on sleepovers.
Post # 3
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I don’t really see a problem with it, we usually sleep over at ILs for Christmas 🙂 I think it’s normal for mothers to want their family all under one roof every now and then.
Post # 4
I think maybe as a mother one day I would understand but I never heard of anyone doing this. Special occasions I get though, lol. Well…as long as it’s rare.
Post # 5
I don’t see anything strange about adult children sleeping over at their parents home occasionally. We always do when we are in town for holidays, and the parents stay here when they are visiting us. It’s nice to spending the quality time together. I can’t imagine thinking of it as a “sleep-over.” At our stage, it’s visiting family. Of course, we have kids, so it’s a different dynamic.
I don’t think she can insist on you staying there,however.
Post # 6
Mlim: I don’t consider it normal (except when visiting at a long distance, but then it’s usually only once a year or so). I’d hate to sleep over at my parents or in-laws on a regular basis. Staying overnight is a whole extra level of effort (need to bring night clothes etc). Your FI is not her dependent child anymore, and she shouldn’t insist he sleeps over when her husband is away. My grandmothers lived by themselves for years, at a much older age than 48, once they were widowed.
Post # 7
My FI and I LOVE sleeping over at his parents place. They live about 2.5 hours away in the country. For us, it’s like taking a little vacation when we can’t get away for a real vacation. We literally get the best sleeps of our lives there- it’s completely dark and absolutely silent at night. If we can get two nights there- even better! Such a great contrast from living downtown in the city. BUT, that’s just the particular context that we’re dealing with which makes the visits so pleasant. We’re also having our wedding there next summer. Also, his folks never get too pushy about our coming to visit, unless it’s been months.
Post # 8
Sara Anna but your in laws live much further away lol. I get that. But ever 1-2 months she wants her kids to stay the night or need company when her husband leaves town for work.
Post # 9
Every one to two months doesn’t seem weird to me, especially since it’s a two hour drive.
Post # 10
I think it’s strange to have a “sleepover” just because. If there’s a reason behind it, like a long day and you are too tired to drive back home, or you’re visiting for more than a day, or even like one PP said they’re out in the country and it’s like a mini vacation. I think sleeping over when you can totally sleep at home no problem, and are just sleeping there just because, is odd.
Just my personal opinion thouh, to each their own : )
Post # 11
Mlim: i don’t think it’s that weird. we usually stay over at mr. h’s mom’s every couple of months–we go to visit (they live an hour and a half away) and we end up hanging out all day, we go out to eat, we drink, talk, and then it’s late. we usually just crash. we keep spare clothes over there just in case we don’t plan to stay but do. if she wanted y’all to stay once a week i’d be like MOM OMG WE HAVE A LIFE!! but every few months, i don’t think is a big deal. sounds like it’s a close family which just makes it even less weird. 🙂
Post # 12
We stay at my fiancés parents house maybe one or twice every other month. They live an hour and a half away. when we go to visit we almost always stay for the whole weekend (friday and saturday noghts) so we get to see them properly and can see his sister and her family and his grandma who all live pretty close by. I don’t think it’s necessarily normal but we like them and it’s a lot nocer than doing a 3 hour round trip in one day.
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s weird. My husband and I have slept over at my parents plenty of times, and his mother has also asked us to sleepover. They both live an hour and a half away from us so along with spending more time with them, they also don’t want us driving too much in one day if we don’t have to.
Post # 14
Unless it’s for a holiday or something, yes I would find it odd. My SO is not her stand in husband for when she’s lonely.
Post # 15
Mlim: My MIL is married and only lives an hour and a half away and expects us to spend the night whenever we go there. We always say no. We don’t feel comfortable there (she rarely washes bedding and she’s a hoarder), so it is much better going home. With a child now, it is even easier saying no.