Post # 1
So, I’ve been with my Fiance 8 years and I’ve never met the individual he’s asking to be his Best Man. Ever. I’ve heard of him, they were close growing up but never met him.
Just curious to see if any of you bees have had that experience.
Post # 3
Do they live far apart? I had never met 2 of DH’s groomsmen until the rehearsal dinner!
Post # 4
One of DH’s groomsman I didn’t meet until his wedding 4 months before ours. So it happens but what’s your circumstance?
Darling Husband and I were together for 18 months when we got married not 8 years! And his bff lives in California and we’re in CT so it’s a little bit different and not easy just to meet up for dinner or something.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2011 - Mackinaw Valley Vineyard; Bloomington Center for the Performing Arts
I know the best man (it’s his brother), but I haven’t met two of the groomsmen, which I still find a little odd, but it’s who he wanted so I respect his decision.
Is there any way you could meet before the wedding? It may make you feel more comfortable with the decision.
Post # 6
@Linz1231: Pretty far apart. NY vs. Mississippi.
@mwitter80: Not really a circumstance, it’s who he decided he wanted to ask. I just thought it was odd I’ve never met him.
@mspony: Probably not, We’re planning a 2012 wedding so it’s not too far off really.
I honestly just thought it was odd that I’d never met him in all the years we’ve been dating. I’ve been to quite a few family functions in other states too. lol.
Post # 7
I think its a little weird in 8 years but because of the distance I wouldnt let it bug you.
Post # 8
@Miss. Flutterby: by circumstance, I meant if there was a reason you’ve never met, like distance or soemthing
Post # 9
Yeah, because of the distance, I don’t think it’s a problem.
Fiance has never met one of my BMs, but she’s lived in either Missouri or Minnesota the entire time we’ve been together, and we both live in Texas.
Post # 10
I think if your wedding is 2012, you have more than enough time to make an effort to meet this man ahead of time. Talk to your Fiance and try to plan a weekend get together somewhere. I think it’s so important and will help you be at ease meeting someone so close to your Fiance that he wants him to be best man.
Post # 11
Well you still have some time before you wedding to meet him, so maybe its time to take an “unexpected” visit to see him? If not theres always skype too, I met one of my SO’s international friends that way.