(Closed) Is it ok for my son to be a flower girl if he agrees to it?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

This is offensive to those struggling with gender identity, so no, unless he identifies as a girl, it is not okay.

Post # 17
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Busy bee

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altaira :  No one is saying a dress makes someone a girl, but OP specifically said he has long hair that could be styled as a girl and he would be so convincing as a girl. 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ugh, terrible idea. Why would anyone want to do this. Just have him wear a tux and sprinkle flowers.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Also if someone asks are you going to tell them that’s your son or pretend it’s your daughter!? 

Post # 20
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Helper bee

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NDTieTheKnot :  Are you also offended by women wearing trousers? Clothing is not owned by either gender. A dress doesn’t make you a man or a woman. I I come from a culture where its totally normal for men to wear what is essentially a skirt. Perhaps if people stopped pushing this ridiculous notion people would struggle less with gender identity.

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whnlz :  I said I see no reason to pretend this boy is a girl. But I have a big problem with people saying he can only be a flower boy in a tux. Plenty of people said this.

Post # 21
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

What? Just have him as he normally looks and sprinkle flowers. That would be adorable. Boys can have flowers too you know!

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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altaira :  the offensive part is him pretending to be a girl for the sake of grown adults – not wearing a dress. I think that’s pretty obvious. 

If the child wanted to wear a dress or wore dresses in “normal” day to day life then that would be one thing. From the OP’s description it sounds like this is not the case, which is why people are suggesting a tux, eg. something that aligns more closely to what is typical of the child. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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kellyliston2017 :  I mean, I don’t think the dress is necessary unless he super wants to wear one. Otherwise just have a Ring Bearer and a Flower boy or a Flower Child lol super cute idea I think it’s 100% fine. 

Post # 25
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Newbee

I don’t see how a traditional wedding (I assume in a church) would be ok with a boy dressing up as a girl. The whole idea is wild. Have him wear a nice tux and be the flower boy. 

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Wow. There are a lot of disgustingly sexist people on here. If this were a 7 year old girl who wanted to wear a tux and wrap her hair to make it look short “like a boys” and be the ring bearer I imagine the responses would be very very different.

When I was a kid I didn’t regularly wear a big poofy dress with my hair in an updo, but if it was a wedding I would have been ‘allowed’ to. I see no difference for this child – if he wants to wear a dress and have his hair done up he totally should!

Post # 28
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Busy bee

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jackiebee :  he isn’t the one who wanted to wear the dress though, it’s his mum and his mums friend who want him to so she can have a ‘traditional’ wedding. 

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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kellyliston2017 :  I wouldn’t put a boy in a dress unless he insists that he has to wear one. If he is a boy and identifies as a boy, he can wear a cute suit and throw petals or confetti. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

This can’t be real.  Put the boy in a tux to throw the flowers

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