- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Oh jeez, this is going to take a little explanation, so stay with me…
First of all, I know that SO is having the ring made and I believe it will be done in about 2 weeks. I know this from accidentally seeing an email.
We had a Vegas trip planned for the end of May and I have given him a timeline that I want to be engaged by June. I figured this trip would be a bit of a celebration for the two of us as I suspect he will propose before then (or maybe he was going to do it while we were there).
Unfortunately, we got some bad news yesterday that SO’s uncle who he was very close with passed away. It wasn’t unexpected so we had some time to come to terms with it luckily.
His memorial service is the same weekend we were going to go to Vegas. Of course, we have cancelled our plans and are flying up to Seattle instead to be with SO’s family. His sister and dad are flying in as well and his brother lives nearby.
I suspect he will still propose before this. He even asked if we could see my parents that weekend too, even though they live a couple hours away. I’m guessing he thinks I will want to see my parents after exciting news like an engagement.
Now my questions.
First, if he does propose beforehand, should I remove the ring during the memorial or at least not tell anyone/show it off? I’m sure we will have a little time with at least his sister, brother and dad besides the memorial that I could show them. I just am not sure announcing an engagement to his extended family is appropriate during a memorial of someone who has died, who by the way, I knew very well too. His aunt and uncle would always pick us up from the airport when we came into town and have us stay with them and whenever they visited California, we would take them out for lunch or dinner.
My second question maybe requires a little more background. His dad is a high up executive at a huge global company. He thinks living in California is too expensive and tells us we should move and save money. He also thinks that spending anything more than $3000 on an engagement ring is stupid. He says we should really be saving that money to buy a house (not in California lol… even though we love where we live and both like our jobs). I know my ring is going to be between $8k-12k. I’m really nervous that he’s going to lay into us that we’re being irresponsible. It was of course SO’s decision how much he wanted to spend on a ring, I just told him what I like. I know he will defend me but I’m concerned his dad is going to thing I made him buy me something expensive. Any advice? I have by the way a very good relationship with his whole family.
This is of course if he doesn’t decide to propose in the week after we get back from the memorial.
Thanks if you actually read all that, it’s a mouthful! I expected not to have to see his family again til next Christmas and by then the engagement wouldn’t really be new.