Post # 1
I know it’s customary for other family members to throw the showers but in our case I’m an only child as is my mom so there are no cousins, aunts, sisters, etc for my side of the family to do a shower. I don’t want to seem gift happy or something like that, but there seriously isn’t anyone to do one and my mom wants to do a shower for some of her friends that know me and a few other women who are like aunts to me. Do you think that is ok? (Just to note the one person who is like an Aunt to me has what we think is beginning alzemers and is not in good enough shape to put something together).
Post # 3
We didnt know that [it was customary for another family member] lol. My mom and cousin hosted it together
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Yes, it’s totally fine. That’s a pretty old rule that has thoroughly gone through the change. Your mother is not financially benefitting from your gifts the way a mother in the early 1900’s might have, so you’re fine.
Post # 6
I didn’t vote in the poll because I think it depends on your social circle and how much of sticklers for etiquette they are. Typically the mob should not host a shower for her own daughter as its seen as your family asking for gifts for too close a relative. Personally I would try to find someone else to ask to host on paper, even if your mom is the de facto hostess.
Post # 7
Technically moms can’t host for their daughters… but that’s a pretty old etiquette rule, and it’s pretty common now. I think it’s fine!
Post # 8
Technically, they aren’t supossed to but I really doubt that anyone cares anymore.
Post # 9
It’s totally fine! My grandmother wanted to throw mine and when she couldn’t my mom stepped up (but then had to step back down so one of my bridesmaids did it). But many MOB’s throw showers.
Post # 10
I figure it’s fine so long as you don’t have a bunch of nitpicking curmudgeons who live by etiquette rulebooks as friends/relatives. My Mom threw my shower and nobody seemed to mind.
Post # 11
Old etiquette dictates that no, the MOB should not host. BUT, the definition of etiquette is a set of contemporary rules within a social set or circle. So, if in your social circle it’s acceptable for the MOB to host then go for it! Where I’m from, it’s pretty much a given that the mothers will host a shower for the bride.
Post # 13
I said yes, because my mom is hosting mine, this coming Sunday!