(Closed) Is it ok for the MOB to throw a shower?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Is it ok for the Mother of the Bride to throw a shower?
    Yes : (39 votes)
    93 %
    No : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    5109 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We didnt know that [it was customary for another family member] lol. My mom and cousin hosted it together

    Post # 4
    7902 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Yes, it’s totally fine. That’s a pretty old rule that has thoroughly gone through the change. Your mother is not financially benefitting from your gifts the way a mother in the early 1900’s might have, so you’re fine.

    Post # 6
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I didn’t vote in the poll because I think it depends on your social circle and how much of sticklers for etiquette they are. Typically the mob should not host a shower for her own daughter as its seen as your family asking for gifts for too close a relative. Personally I would try to find someone else to ask to host on paper, even if your mom is the de facto hostess. 

    Post # 7
    1663 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Technically moms can’t host for their daughters… but that’s a pretty old etiquette rule, and it’s pretty common now.  I think it’s fine!

    Post # 8
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Technically, they aren’t supossed to but I really doubt that anyone cares anymore.

    Post # 9
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    It’s totally fine! My grandmother wanted to throw mine and when she couldn’t my mom stepped up (but then had to step back down so one of my bridesmaids did it). But many MOB’s throw showers. 

    Post # 10
    494 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I figure it’s fine so long as you don’t have a bunch of nitpicking curmudgeons who live by etiquette rulebooks as friends/relatives.  My Mom threw my shower and nobody seemed to mind.

    Post # 11
    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Old etiquette dictates that no, the MOB should not host. BUT, the definition of etiquette is a set of contemporary rules within a social set or circle.  So, if in your social circle it’s acceptable for the MOB to host then go for it!  Where I’m from, it’s pretty much a given that the mothers will host a shower for the bride.

    Post # 13
    1562 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I said yes, because my mom is hosting mine, this coming Sunday!

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