(Closed) Is it ok if your SO gets a lap dance or strip show for free from a woman?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is it ok with you if your SO gets a strip show or lap dance from a woman other than a stripper?
    Yes, I trust my SO. : (27 votes)
    10 %
    Yes, but only if I know the woman doing the stripping/lap dance. : (5 votes)
    2 %
    Yes, but only if I'm there with him. : (5 votes)
    2 %
    No, he can only get a lap dance or strip show from a stripper. : (77 votes)
    29 %
    No, my SO can't interact with any woman in that way aside from me. : (154 votes)
    57 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    986 posts
    Busy bee

    Nope. He can go to a strip club, but no one dancing on him in any circumstance.

    Post # 4
    Member
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @bunnyharriet:  Strip clubs I don’t LIKE per se, but I’d be ok w. my guy going for a bachelor party or something. I draw the line at lap dances, though. It just weirds me out. That crosses over from the looking to the touching, which I am not ok with.

    A lap dance from a friend or stranger? Unless this was a hired stripper for some function, then I would go ahead and call this cheating. It’s a sexual act being performed, isn’t it? I can’t really think of any occasion where a lap dance from a friend or stranger could occur, unless it was some drunken college party lol. I am not too worried about my 40 yr old other half getting a lap dance from anyone.. but theoretically I’d be against it, in a strip club or elsewhere.

    ETA: I assume we’re talking about serious lap dances where the lady is wearing little to no clothing.. not a fully clothed lap dance (if such a thing exists). Odd question but now you’ve got me thinking hahaha.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3452 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Um no, it is not okay.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I would like to know what lady goes up to a man and says, “Hey, you look like you could use a free strip show. No, no, no. I’m doing this out of the goodness of my heart, Mister. Put those dollar bills away!”

    :O

    Post # 9
    Member
    9082 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    My SO and I have talked — I’m a-OK with strippers, lap dances, whatever. I don’t care. At the end of the day, he’s crawling into bed with me. So, he can look at the menu, he just can’t order off of it.

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    21 posts
    Newbee

    My SO is not a big strip club guy. If he went to one for a bachelor party or something similar, it wouldn’t be a big deal to me. If someone bought him a lap dance, I wouldn’t be thrilled, but not really upset either. If he bought one for himself, I would be agitated. If he got one from a non-stripper, I would be livid.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2523 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @bunnyharriet:  What the fuckety fuck?

    Wow.

    Speechless.

    Post # 12
    Member
    21 posts
    Newbee

    @bunnyharriet:  That is insane. Do you have a lot of wild friends? Maybe we are old and boring, but the craziest thing that ever happens at parties we are invited to is someone getting in a (verbal) fight. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    1237 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2019

    No, absolutely not. 

    We tend to be very fair in our relationship. He would not be comfortable with a man touching me like that, so why should I be okay with another woman touching him like that?

    It helps that we’re both kind of possessive of each other, haha.

    Post # 15
    Member
    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Nope.  Then again, I’m not okay with another naked/mostly naked woman grinding on my SO in any context.  Why should I be?

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