Post # 1
A lot of women on this board are OK with their SO getting a lap dance and/or visiting a strip club. I am curious if these same women would mind if their SO got a lap dance from a friend or stranger, for free, in an environment other than a bachelor party or strip club.
Post # 3
Nope. He can go to a strip club, but no one dancing on him in any circumstance.
Post # 4
@bunnyharriet: Strip clubs I don’t LIKE per se, but I’d be ok w. my guy going for a bachelor party or something. I draw the line at lap dances, though. It just weirds me out. That crosses over from the looking to the touching, which I am not ok with.
A lap dance from a friend or stranger? Unless this was a hired stripper for some function, then I would go ahead and call this cheating. It’s a sexual act being performed, isn’t it? I can’t really think of any occasion where a lap dance from a friend or stranger could occur, unless it was some drunken college party lol. I am not too worried about my 40 yr old other half getting a lap dance from anyone.. but theoretically I’d be against it, in a strip club or elsewhere.
ETA: I assume we’re talking about serious lap dances where the lady is wearing little to no clothing.. not a fully clothed lap dance (if such a thing exists). Odd question but now you’ve got me thinking hahaha.
Post # 5
I am not OK with my SO visiting a strip club, getting a lap dance, etc, no matter who is doing the stripping. I have personally gone to parties where girls have stripped down and given lap dances! That’s when my SO and I would split, but I have seen men who I know to be in a relationship, ogling the naked girls and receiving the lap dances.
The last party I went to was actually a wedding, and toward midnight, girls did start flashing their asses and breasts. My SO and I left, and I later found out several girls wound up topless bu the end of the night and a couple were grinding on men. One of the women ( a married woman in her late 20s with two children!) gave a lap dance to a guy who is in a relationship.
Post # 7
I would like to know what lady goes up to a man and says, “Hey, you look like you could use a free strip show. No, no, no. I’m doing this out of the goodness of my heart, Mister. Put those dollar bills away!”
Post # 8
You’d be surprised.
This is a horrible story, and I hate that it even happened, but I must share.
A few years ago, my SO and I were invited to a party that we decided not to attend. OK, so these two girls (they were literally girls, 16 and 17) got really drunk and started making out. Then they got stark naked and started performing oral sex on each other in front of the whole room (about 30 people I heard). Whoa. Nobody tried to stop them and bring them back down to earth. They just let them carry on like that.
Post # 9
My SO and I have talked — I’m a-OK with strippers, lap dances, whatever. I don’t care. At the end of the day, he’s crawling into bed with me. So, he can look at the menu, he just can’t order off of it.
Post # 10
My SO is not a big strip club guy. If he went to one for a bachelor party or something similar, it wouldn’t be a big deal to me. If someone bought him a lap dance, I wouldn’t be thrilled, but not really upset either. If he bought one for himself, I would be agitated. If he got one from a non-stripper, I would be livid.
Post # 12
That is insane. Do you have a lot of wild friends? Maybe we are old and boring, but the craziest thing that ever happens at parties we are invited to is someone getting in a (verbal) fight.
Post # 13
I have some acquaintances that are pretty wild, but my friends are all tame. I was stunned when I heard that story (even though both of the girls were very promiscuous, but still, even for them, it was a crazy thing to do).
Post # 14
No, absolutely not.
We tend to be very fair in our relationship. He would not be comfortable with a man touching me like that, so why should I be okay with another woman touching him like that?
It helps that we’re both kind of possessive of each other, haha.
Post # 15
Nope. Then again, I’m not okay with another naked/mostly naked woman grinding on my SO in any context. Why should I be?
Post # 16
My SO would be livid if I visited a strip club with male strippers. He would flip. I feel the same way. I wouldn’t visit any strip clubs anyway. Call me old fashioned (I am 25 lol), but a strip club doesn’t seem like the most appropriate environment for anyone in a serious relationship. Just my opinion of course, but that’s how I feel.