(Closed) Is it ok NOT to have a Maid of Honor or Best Man?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Im the opposite. I was having a hard time choosing just one Maid/Matron of Honor so I have three maids of honors and no bridesmaids (I mean really how can I choose between my 2 sisters and my bestest friend?). 

Its your wedding and if you dont find a Maid/Matron of Honor then its up to you. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Of course! It’s your wedding, you can have whomever you want or don’t want. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

That’s fine! I was in a wedding once with no Maid/Matron of Honor. If I remember correctly, we just lined up at the altar based on height, so whoever was the shortest ended up being the one who held the bride’s bouquet and fluffed her train or whatever.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We will not be having a Maid/Matron of Honor or best man. We just want it to be us up at the alter ๐Ÿ™‚ Our parents will be witnesses.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I don’t think we’ll be having a best man or Maid/Matron of Honor. Our wedding party will be small (3 bridemaids/groomsmen and 1 jr bridesmaid/jr groomsman) and they all mean so much to us that we can’t pick just one to take the title! We might just call them all maids of honour and best men!

It’s YOUR wedding day, do what YOU want. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We are not having either a Maid/Matron of Honor or best man. We just told them to play rock paper scissor for whoever wants to walk down the aisle last and end up standing beside us at the altar because we didnt want to pick anyone to stand out since they are all important to us.

@sommertime:  The whole wedding party on each side is having input on our bachelor/bachelorettes since we dont have one stand out person. I have 3 girls standing up for me and theyre all putting ideas together.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Of course its okay! Im only having 2 BMs and Fiance is having a best man (his dad!) and 1 groomsmen. Not what youd call traditional! LOL But hy. its our weddng!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@sommertime:  All the bridesmaids will plan it together! ๐Ÿ™‚ Don’t stress about it, it’s not unusual to have no MOH/BM. It’s hard to choose a #1 person like that. It will probably work out easier because some people like to dress the MOH/BM slightly differently so that they stand out as “special” but that can be hard to do. This way your decisions should be a lot easier. 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

OP I agree with your outlook – I don’t like the idea of elevating one girl above the other. I called both my girls bridesmaids.

As for who plans the parties, it can be done together, or by whoever’s most suited. My best friend planned mine because my sister (who was my other BM) didn’t really know my friends.

You will also want to think about who stands closest to you in the ceremony, and who gives a speech/toast if you are doing that. But you can have your closest friend designated to do that, without officially calling her Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You’re bound to have someone in your life that you’d put at the top of your list.  And other people will realize that.  I don’t think you have to feel bad at all.. chances are that the girls would rather be BM’s than the Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We aren’t and that’s okay!

Post # 16
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Newbee

A lot of brides don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor or best man. It’s totally up to you (it’s your wedding!) 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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