Post # 1
My fiance and I decided not to have any dancing at our wedding. On the invites I described it as an elegant dinner so the guests wouldn’t expect dancing. We are basically having a cocktail hour and then I nice dinner with wedding cake afterwards. We are not having an entrance, or speeches or anything like that. We are only having at most 40 people. Does this sound alright? I’m worried that guests might get bored. We are having a guitarist for background music and it runs from 5-8 on a Saturday.
Post # 3
It’s 3 hours… I don’t thnk they will get bored. I think you should, thru word of mouth, explain what an “elegant dinner” means. I would have thought I ‘d need a fancy dress and there would be dancing.
Post # 5
Totally fine. Dancing, speeches, etc, are not required. All that is required is that you adequately host your guests for the duration of your event. Sounds like you have that covered.
Post # 6
Sounds great! My cousin had a wedding like this with about that same number of people, and everyone just enjoyed the food and catching up with eachother.
Post # 7
Sounds lovely! If you are keeping it small, word of mouth regarding the style of the reception will spread quickly. FWIW, I attended a wedding like this and there were spontaneous speeches in between courses. With good food and wine, people might want to express their joy about your marriage, so you might not get to escape that if you were hoping to!
Post # 8
@remijp: That is true! I know there was a lot of glass clinking and impromptu speeches at the one I attended.
Post # 9
@Kim4995: We’re not having dancing at our reception, either! We’re having a super formal luncheon for 40. Everyone seems on-board!
Then we are taking our 15 closest friends out clubbing in a limo that night!
But I think a dinner-only reception would be really cool!
Post # 10
Ours will be dinner only. No dancing, planned speaches – heck, I don’t even know what I’m going to do for music, LOL.
Post # 11
I think it sounds lovely, and with the length of the event, I doubt anyone would expect dancing. Are your guests aware that it’s only 3 hours?
Post # 12
I would expect dancing & would be disappointed to find that there’s no dancing. I’d appreciate no speeches! I’d use word of mouth to let people know ahead of time unless yout guest aren’t the dancing type.
Post # 13
I’ve had lots of fun at weddings that weren’t “traditional.” I think you just have to go with whatever makes sense for you.
Post # 14
I hope so, because we’re not having dancing either! Just a lovely dinner for 20. 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I think with 40 pepople that sounds fine!! Sometimes it’s “hard to get the party” with that few people. Not always, depends on the dynamic.
Do what you want!!
Post # 16
@Kim4995: I think that sounds lovely and perfectly fine. We are having minimal dancing at our reception and a ukulele player, so I am following suit but with a Hawaiian vibe. My fiancé and I are not big dancers, and it’s our day. We prefer to take in the Maui sunset while listening to traditional Hawaiian music and enjoying an elegant dinner. Think relaxed, exotic, romantic dinner party vs. the frat party style weddings so many throw today.