(Closed) Is it Ok not to have a typical reception?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

It’s 3 hours… I don’t thnk they will get bored.  I think you should, thru word of mouth, explain what an “elegant dinner” means.  I would have thought I ‘d need a fancy dress and there would be dancing.  

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

@Kim4995  

Totally fine.  Dancing, speeches, etc, are not required.  All that is required is that you adequately host your guests for the duration of your event.  Sounds like you have that covered.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sounds great! My cousin had a wedding like this with about that same number of people, and everyone just enjoyed the food and catching up with eachother.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sounds lovely! If you are keeping it small, word of mouth regarding the style of the reception will spread quickly. FWIW, I attended a wedding like this and there were spontaneous speeches in between courses. With good food and wine, people might want to express their joy about your marriage, so you might not get to escape that if you were hoping to!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@remijp:  That is true! I know there was a lot of glass clinking and impromptu speeches at the one I attended.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Kim4995:  We’re not having dancing at our reception, either! We’re having a super formal luncheon for 40. Everyone seems on-board!

Then we are taking our 15 closest friends out clubbing in a limo that night!

But I think a dinner-only reception would be really cool!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ours will be dinner only.  No dancing, planned speaches – heck, I don’t even know what I’m going to do for music, LOL.  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it sounds lovely, and with the length of the event, I doubt anyone would expect dancing. Are your guests aware that it’s only 3 hours?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would expect dancing & would be disappointed to find that there’s no dancing. I’d appreciate no speeches! I’d use word of mouth to let people know ahead of time unless yout guest aren’t the dancing type.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’ve had lots of fun at weddings that weren’t “traditional.” I think you just have to go with whatever makes sense for you.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I hope so, because we’re not having dancing either! Just a lovely dinner for 20. 🙂

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I think with 40 pepople that sounds fine!! Sometimes it’s “hard to get the party” with that few people. Not always, depends on the dynamic.

Do what you want!!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

@Kim4995:  I think that sounds lovely and perfectly fine.  We are having minimal dancing at our reception and a ukulele player, so I am following suit but with a Hawaiian vibe.  My fiancé and I are not big dancers, and it’s our day. We prefer to take in the Maui sunset while listening to traditional Hawaiian music and enjoying an elegant dinner. Think relaxed, exotic, romantic dinner party  vs. the frat party style weddings so many throw today. 

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