(Closed) Is it ok not to include the wedding party’s wife/husband during photo time?

posted 8 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Is it ok to not include the significant others of the wedding party during photo time?
    Yes, it's completely ok since the reception is immediately following and at the same location. : (60 votes)
    97 %
    No, it's totally rude.. : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I’ve never been included on the paty bus when my husband was in a wedding.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    frankly i think the SOs would rather be at the cocktail hour than tagging along for pictures. is the issue that some of them won’t know anyone else at the wedding? because you could always give them the option of coming along OR going straight to the reception. they’ll most likely choose food and alcohol over watching your pictures 🙂

    just out of curiosity, if you are doing a first look before the ceremony, why not just get all the pictures out of the way beforehand so you and your bridal party can enjoy the reception?

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My Fiance was in a wedding recently in May. I wasn’t in any pictures, but I had to stay with him when they were getting them done, because I had no other transportation. If someone we knew would have offered to take me, or they had transporatation availiable, like a shuttle or something, I probably would not have stayed.

    Post # 6
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    Worker bee

    The bridal party significant others are not part of the pictures. They will see them at the reception but the ceremony and photo time, they just have to be apart.

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I was recently in a wedding where the couple had rented a limo to take the wedding party after the official church ceremony to a park for pictures and a light lunch before there outdoor unofficial ceremony and reception. My Fiance went with my family to lunch and shopping in the between time but the Maid/Matron of Honor had her boyfriend meet her at the park and eat which to me felt very awkward. Since we were all busy with pictures and helping the bride he was just in limbo and talking with the brides parents which seemed rude to me. Also I would definately perfer to be at a cocktail hour if I had the choice then watching my Fiance take pictures!

    Post # 8
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    16213 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    We’re renting a limo for our bridal party (mostly for photos) and we won’t be including the SOs. I’ve never heard of them coming along for photos. So don’t worry!

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    oh yeah you’re fine not to include them, i’ve never heard of it either.  and it doesnt matter that the reception is at the same location, that doesn’t really factor in to this situation.  it would just be weird to have them tag along which i imagine would be boring for them.  

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I have never known any SO’s to be in any of the wedding pictures, so you are totally fine in doing what you are planning on doing!

    Post # 13
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I haven’t heard of SO’s being part of the wedding photos before. The only time is if they are part of the family that I have seen it.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    @speulie – oh really?  hm, well that’s not my experience, nor do I know anyone who has done that and we have been to/been in TONS of weddings… but if it’s the norm in your circle then i see why it’s concerning you.  I do think it’s not a common practice tho, wouldn’t it actually slow down the whole process of taking photos if you’re trying to round up a ton of extra people and go to all these different locations?  you only have an hour and trust me, do NOT underestimate how long it’ll take to do your photos.  every experience i had with photos surrounding my wedding ended up taking like 4 times as long as i expected it, so while this is a little off topic i just wanted to give you that advice.  and we weren’t waisting time either, it just takes so much longer than you think.  realistically you will probably only make it to one of the few locations you are planning on. 

    also, it’s a very romantic thing to wait to see each other at the ceremony for the first time, but i highly recommend doing the first look like pb and j suggested.  we did that and were able to take our time doing all the photos before the ceremony which let us enjoy the cocktail hour and it was great!  but even tho we gave ourselves 4 hours for all the photos we still only made it to one of the 2 locations we had planned on… back to my “don’t underestimate” warning 🙂  and it was really such a sweet moment when my hubby and i saw each other for the first time, even tho it wasn’t at the ceremony.  it was actually really special and nice that it was private since it was just the 2 of us.  (and the photographer lol, but we didnt even know he was there). if it’s really important to you to make it to certain locations for photos you might want to consider this.  or don’t. 🙂

    so anyway, this long-a$$ comment is my two cents…  sorry its so long ha!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We are including the SO’s in our limo.  Fiance is in two weddings this month and as his SO, I found it really annoying (for lack of better word) to be stranded without my date.  I knew some people at the first one so I just tagged along and felt dumb.  The second one is tomorrow and I don’t really know people so I’m already irritated that he won’t be with me much.  For our wedding we really want the SO’s included in the party in the limo because we are friends with them too. 

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