Post # 1
My fiancé and I are highschool sweethearts and now that we are graduated from college we are getting married next fall. My future husband is also a social introvert and has been accepting of my large extrovert european ethnic family and all of the weddings, showers, birthdays and such. We have had 5 weddings to attend and be in this year alone (making it 27 weddings in my life thus far) and there is another next month. He’s worn out from it all but I would still like to attend our college friend’s wedding at our midwest alma mater a 3 hr drive away, especially since this couple has moved out of state. Would it be acceptable if I went with out him since a) he’s worn out as an introvert and b) he may have a weekend work shift since he had fluid work hours? Or would it be strange and unacceptable since we have been a pair for so long? I mean, I am definitely not going to hook up with anyone, or drink heavily, just be their for our friends on their special day and also socialize with our college friends and then have a long drive home around 10pm.
Thank you for any advice.
Post # 2
Yes. You are allowed to go to social functions on your own, even if you’re married! 🙂 Go and have a great time.
Post # 3
I think it’s more than fine to go without him.
Post # 4
Why wouldn’t it be okay? Enjoy the wedding.
Post # 5
It’s not only absolutely fine- I’d say it’s healthy. Especially if he’s an introvert and you’re much more social, for the two of you to only do things as a couple, he’ll either end up dragged to way more events than he can handle or you’ll end up missing out. Attending some as a couple and some solo is the best solution for this.
Post # 6
I don’t understand the issue or why it wouldn’t be ok. If you are fine driving alone and wouldn’t feel horribly alone at the wedding (if you were also very introverted or something), then there’s no reason why you shouldn’t go alone. If you want to go, go.
Post # 8
I don’t understand why it wouldn’t be okay…
Post # 9
ladywoodelf : If he can’t or isn’t feeling up to coming then go without him, you guys don’t have to be attached at the hip. Nothing wrong with going to social events alone.
Post # 10
I go to social events without my husband, they give him anxiety sometimes so it’s easier for me to go alone than make sure he’s okay all night long.
Post # 11
I went to a wedding this last weekend without my SO. I asked the groom if I could bring my bestfriend (someone he knew. We all worked together at one point) and she and I went and had a blast. It was also 3 hours away.
Post # 12
Darling Husband is like this too. Just working and dealing with his immediate family wears him out! I go to most social functions without him, just say he has other obligations if people try to press me for details, and then I change the subject. For an introvert, quiet alone time is an obligation for maintaining mental and even physical health.
Post # 13
Why wouldn’t it be ok? It doesn’t sound like he knows the couple very well anyway.
Post # 14
Totally fine so long as you’re not changing a rsvp at the last moment.
Post # 15
I think it’s completely okay, and agree that it’s healthy. I’m an introvert and my Fiance goes to social events without me occasionally. It’s important in our relationship for us to both be flexible that way, since he’s more extroverted than I am. We’ve also split up when we’ve had two important weddings on a single weekend.