Post # 1
what is your opinion on asking for rsvps back by email or phone only? we will include a card with the info on it, but not one that will actually be mailed back. do you think this will be ok? convenient? will people not like it?
im thinking it will be nice because it is less expensive for postage, more convenient for people to email, and also better on the environment than having cards mailed back and we can also include a map on the back they can use instead of including yet another card in the invite.
also, what wording would you suggest we use so they know the rsvp is by email only, and what to email
Post # 3
we did this. it cuts out alot of money with stamps. we did an email & phone number. the phone number would then send a message to the email & you could even hear what the person was saying in the message if they called. we used our through google mail.
Post # 4
We did this too. People can RSVP by phone or on our wedding website. Our wording was something like, “please help us save trees. RSVP to http://www._____.com or to [my mom’s name] at [phone number] by the fourth of july”
Post # 5
I’m not a fan of these methods. It’s a personal preference, but also a lot of my guests do not have internet and I just don’t trust cell phone voicemails (I get voicemails and missed call alerts sometimes weeks later!). Plus, I just like receiving snail-mail.
Post # 6
I’m going this route as well! RSVPs and menu selections will be done on the website.
Post # 7
I did this! Our numbers of RSVPs back were similar to what I’ve heard from mail-ins. The younger crowd loved having the email option, and I was surprised how many of the older generation emailed as well, otherwise they just called.
Post # 8
We did our RSVPs via our website. We just put “RSVP at http://www.XYZ.com by X date” at the bottom of our invites. Our wedding was pretty casual, though, so I’d probably do this on a separate sheet if you’re going more formal. By traditional etiquette standards, pre-stamped RSVP cards are actually considered rude, so you’re fine skipping them.
Post # 9
@les105: I had no idea pre-stamped RSVP cards were considered rude. I’ve yet to read this in the tons of etiquette books I’ve read. Why is it considered rude?
Post # 10
We did phone/e-mail for our age group of friends who are more likely to be on the computer/phone regularly then we had a formal RSVP card for our older relatives who were most likely not oging to e-mail
Post # 11
This is definitely what we will be doing. I don’t know a single person who does NOT have a computer or email, even my 80 something grandparents. But everyone has a phone.
Post # 12
I went this route and it went as well as it could have. We still had to get a hold of guests after the RSVP date, but that wouldn’t have changed if we had done snail mail. I also made spreadsheets for our parents and myself to check off who has RSVP’d yes and no. We used the response card and wrote:
_____ seats will be reserved in your honour
Kindly respond on or before ThisDate
Our Phone Number
Parent’s Phone Number
Post # 13
@BetterSherm: They are considered rude because they assume that your guests don’t know enough to know to RSVP on their own stationary/write you a note. Basically, it assumes that people will not RSVP unless you make it easy for them…which unfortunately is often true.
We used the phone and email option and it worked really well. This was a compromise with my Darling Husband, who wanted to go paperless for invites. We didn’t have to chase anyone down, which was incredible! My sister used the RSVP card option, and had to make about 10 phone calls. For some reason, people just don’t want to return the little cards.
@CherryWaves: That is exactly what we did!
Post # 14
Personally, I do not like the email/call only RSVP method. I think it’s much classier and proper to include a traditional RSVP card, and as far as postage goes, you (the bride/groom) should affix a stamp on the return card so guests don’t have to pay for postage.
Post # 15
@upallnight: FAR FAR classier to go the traditional route. Plus, the older generations won’t be thrilled with online methods. I’ve seen–time and again–elderly invitees not know what to do about the more “modern” versions of RSVPing.
Post # 16
We had people RSVP on our wedding website or by phone. It worked out great!