(Closed) Is it ok to get hateful text messages like this ??

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@honey_bee_tn:  no, that is not appropriate for him to say to you. and i don’t want to make any excuses. i’m curious if he’s ever been like this before?

Post # 4
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3947 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would divorce my HUSBAND if he spoke to me that way.  That’s disgusting. 

edit:  You should never ever let this go.  As in, you should break up with him. You do not want to marry someone who is already speaking to you this way – no one deserves that.  This won’t be the last time.

Post # 5
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983 posts
Busy bee

I make a rule of not talking about work with my SO. I leave work at work and home at home.  

Post # 6
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1404 posts
Bumble bee

That is nowhere close to being ok.  

Post # 7
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow what a dis respectful d bag. My Fiance would never speak to me that way. There is clearly some serious lack of respect going on..

Post # 8
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

That’s not right for ANYONE to say… that’s even scary.  Wow.

Post # 9
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8883 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

WOW, what an ass.

Post # 10
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3830 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Does this happen often? I can see people doing things irrationally when fighting. But if he constantly fights like this, swearing and degrading you, i think he needs to see someone about proper disagreement skills. 

Post # 11
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12975 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Uhh, no that’s not okay.  

Post # 12
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

No, that is not normal.  He needs anger management classes, or something.  Y

Post # 13
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

No, that is not normal.  He needs anger management classes, or something.  Y

Post # 14
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6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@KateByDesign:  AGREED!

@honey_bee_tn:  This is NOT normal, and definitely not okay.  Please do not put up with this.  *hugs*

Post # 15
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Totally inappropriate. If it was a one time thing totally out of the blue, I’d probably have a tlak with him and let him know it’s not okay for that to ever happen again.  Maybe he had a terrible day or something – not saying it’s okay, but I just wouldn’t up and leave over a one time thing.  Obviousyl it’s not okay if that’s how he always responds in arguments and you have a bigger issue there.

 my Fiance and I have both said things to each other that were inappropriate and we regretted in the heat of the moment. Howver, those were in person not via text. I can’t imagine either of us writing out a text, seeing it all there on paper and pressing send.  I feel theres more time to judge your reaction and what you’re saying than with words flying out.  We did this once and then agreed it was never okay to happen again and we’ve both controlled our tempers since then!

Post # 16
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow, people that don’t even like me don’t speak to me that way. That’s unacceptable. 

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