(Closed) Is it ok to get hateful text messages like this ??

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 137
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670 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Fiance and I have had our arguments, but never would one of us be as rude as your Fiance, those are very harsh words, he wasn’t just a little mean, but alot. He was way out of line! Although I may be a little crazy by saying leave, I just would not put up with anyone’s BS, I saw my mom do it her whole life and I refuse to let any man talk or text me in that way. Yes he deserves another chance, but he really needs to know what he said was completely uncalled for even if it was in the heat of the moment.

Post # 138
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228 posts
Helper bee

@honey_bee_tn:  that is not ok in my book. I find the whole yelling at you/getting mad at you for making him mad is scary logic. Don’t let him blame you for his temper. 

Post # 139
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170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@drummerbride:  +1

I mean really, it’s ’til death do us part’ not ’til death do us part or until you send me a nasty text message during a stupid fight’

Post # 140
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had an Ex that pulled nonsense like that.  Explains why he’s an ex.

 

Post # 141
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Bumble bee

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@athame1983:  +1111 a txt msg is NOT something to break up over… its unrealistic to end an entire relationship over one bad arguement BUT it is definitely time to set boundaries and limitations to the extent of your fights and the point in which u and your SO are uncomfortable… Arguements are inevitable bcz they not one person is perfect but they can b neutralized with level heads and maturity

Post # 142
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549 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I haven’t read all the replies so maybe somebody suggested this, but I would recommend seeing a pre-marital counselor. I don’t know you, your fiance, your interactions, or the context of this argument so I don’t feel comfortable telling you to break up. But I can say that it’s a very mean message and I’m sorry that he said that to you. If it were me, I would be concerned about how he might potentially speak to our future children, too. I hope you can work things out through professional counseling and make the decision that is ultimately best for you.

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