Post # 1
My sister is having her first baby in a few months and her shower is in December.
One of the perks of my job is we are given 30% discount at a local thrift store. They get amazing items that are gently used, brand name, great quality. The items I want to buy are clothes and books. Nothing else. Obviously I’d only get items that are in good condition (no stains, rips, tears, etc.) and thoroughly wash/clean everything before giving it to her.
I plan to give her a new gift at the shower and then give her the used stuff later. Is this ok or tacky?
Post # 2
I’d just ask her first! I wouldn’t mind but some people may.
Post # 3
I personally do not like used items of any kind from used shops (items from people I know that have items they used, I don’t mind… yeah, I’m kinda weird like that), so I would not like it if I knew. I think it really depnds on the person receiving the gift.
Post # 4
At the shower, no definitely not.
But seperately, after the fact a bag of gently used clean clothes, sure (as long as shes not the prissy type who would never thrift.)
Post # 5
When I first read this headline, I was like wow, seriously? But after reading your post, I think that if you get her a nice, new gift for the shower, and just give her the other stuff later that is perfectly fine.
Post # 6
Depends on the item. I wouldn’t give used car seats or anything that could recalled. It’ sweet of you to want to help out tho. I think it’s fine usually
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2017 - France
In my culture it’s the norm to receive used items, babies grow so fast so there is always a family member with things you can use. My son had mostly new because he was the first boy born in 16 years. My sisters shared clothes with my cousins and aunts and no one has any issues with it. I’m from an island so maybe it’s because our economy sucks and every little bit helps.
Post # 8
Some people are perfectly fine with clothes from thift shops, others aren’t. There’s nothing “prissy” about a personal preference.
I would ask her first and then act accordingly. Just mention that they are some super cute very gently used items and you’d love to grab a bunch to gift her later, is she cool with that?
Post # 9
I wouldn’t give used items at the shower. I would ask her if she’d like them and give them to her later if so. But don’t be offended if she says no, some people just don’t like used items for babies.
Post # 10
I vote no, which is unfortunate becuase theres so much waste in this world.
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
mrshmc1204 : I think it’s fine since you don’t plan on giving the used items as a shower gift. You know your sister best, though! If you know that she won’t mind second hand items, then she’ll probably appreciate that you took the time to find some cute clothes and books for the baby.
Post # 12
I think its perfectly fine to give either before or after the shower and not as the shower gift. With the exception of carseats, cribs and diapers, I dont know why anyone buys new everything for a baby. They use it such a short amount of time. In our family we constantly hand down clothes and other items.
Post # 13
I dont mind used but agree I would not accept a used car seat etc… because thats very dangerous
clothes and stuff are fine, most my sons clothes where second hand, babys only sleep in them and distroy them anyway and they grow so fast that buying all new stuff is rediculous – as long as its good condition and nothing unsafe then its fine
Post # 14
Thanks for the responses so far! I’m gonna ask her what she’d prefer, even though I wanted it to be a nice surprise! I guess I had to ask this question because I know I’d be thrilled if someone gave me a ton of items and saved money lol… especially if the things were nice.
And no, I’d never gift major items like carseat, crib, etc. I’m looking at only clothes and books.
Post # 15
At the shower I would say no. After the shower I say suuuure! Just ask her first if she is ok with used items.