(Closed) Is it ok to give used baby items as a gift?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
  • poll: So...
    Yes, giving used items is OKAY! : (52 votes)
    38 %
    No, giving used items is TACKY! : (71 votes)
    51 %
    OTHER : (15 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    mrshmc1204 :  Ummm, I wouldn’t call it tacky per se….but I wouldn’t do it. That feels like walking in to a shower with big garbage bag full of hand me downs. At a private time? Yes. At the shower? No.

    Post # 17
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    Bumble bee

    I always buy new things for friends and family who just had a baby for their shower or when I visit them to see the baby and they don’t have a shower.  I have lots of nice, used clothing, toys and books, etc., from when I had my little girl, but I would offer them to people if they want them, but not give as gifts.  I always ask them if they want any used items first before I give them.

    Post # 18
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2014

    If your sister is cool with used stuff, then go for it! Since you’re already giving something new for the shower, I don’t see the problem. If it were me, I’d love it, but I’m a big thrifter. I honestly don’t understand people that are afraid of or grossed out by used clothes and books, there’s no reason that all of that stuff would need to be new. 

    Post # 19
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    Sugar bee

    mrshmc1204 :  If she is your sister, maybe do a bigger gift than just clothes or books. Usually that’s more coworkers gift, than immediate family. 

    Post # 20
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I think it’s one thing to gift used items that you have previously used and cared for after hte fact (not at the shower)

    Personally I wouldn’t accept thrift store items for my child. Not my thing.

    Post # 21
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    mrshmc1204 :  Always give brand new (not thrift store new) items at a baby shower. If you have something that you used and it’s still good, ASK first and then give it to them. Don’t give a used item as a gift. There are some things that we took AFTER friends asked if we wanted it SEPARATE from the baby shower like a swing, crib, changing table. But no one brought their used stuff to our shower. 

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee

    As a regular “just becuase” gift, absolutely. At a shower, no. I’m perfectly fine with used items, about half of DS’s clothes are from a second-hand store. However I think it would be weird to receive used gifts (from a store when you don’t know where they came from) at a shower. 

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    I would get her the new gift for the shower. Then after, I would ask. People get gifted so much clothes so she may have tons already. So, I would just after the fact mention “hey, at work I can get next to new xyz if you’d like…I’d love to do so as a gift to you but let me know if it would bother you!”…then just see what she says.

    Post # 24
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    mrshmc1204 :  I would actually be more comfortable with clothes than books.  Clothes I can toss in the wash quick to make sure they are clean.   Every baby I have ever met chews on books.  It would not be an easy thing to clean, as most are paper and cardboard.  I would actually prefer hard toys (blocks or plastic) second hand that I can whipe with disinfectant or wash with disinfectant first.  

    That all said, if your sister lives near by, it would be fun to go to the store together and let her pick out stuff.  Not just saying as a soon to be mom, but I would love to take a friend/family member to a store and say “up to X is on me.”

    Post # 25
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    After the shower I say yes! I used to be really against used items like clothes but after having kids and seeing how little these items are worn, i’m now a fan! I would just not buy used onesies or udner shirts, taht sort of thing. Anything else as far as clothes, sure! Iw ould even keep it a surprise if you really want to and just tell her when you give them to her.

    Post # 26
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    mrshmc1204 :  buy a couple of cute items and present them to her (not at the shower) and say “look at these cute items I got at the thrift store, so tiny!” See her reaction. That way you don’t have this super awkward conversation asking her if she’s ok with used clothing. Then you get the reaction before you spend a ton of money on her. Plus no matter what, it shows that you were thinking about her outside of required events like a shower. That will mean more to her than the gift itself.

    i agree with your plan to give a new gift at the shower. 

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I think it’s completely fine, but it’s entirely dependent on your friend.  For me and most of the people we know, we PREFER used stuff because it reduces waste and unnecessary consumerism and saves money for things that really matter, like travel and retirement savings etc.  But I think above all, you’d want to consider your sister’s perspective. 

    Post # 28
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    I would ask if she is interested in anything used.  If she is not going to use them it is a waste of money.  If she is open to it, then sure.  But def not for a shower or anything like that.  I bought a lot of used clothes for my babies.  But I ws pretty picky and none of it looked worn.  After having kids, I know why, lol.  And I have now gievn away a ton of worn once for 2 hours items. 

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    What is wrong with a ‘used’ book? OMG SOMEONE READ IT BEFORE ME.

    I think refusing a used book would be prissy x10 lol.

    I think you are a sweet sister/auntie OP!

    Post # 30
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I’m about to have a baby and many people have given me hand me downs, which I appreciate, but those same people have also given me a new gift from my registry, too.  (Not having a shower.) I think of secondhand baby stuff as kind of an extra bonus but not an official “gift,” if that makes sense.  Give her something else at the shower then give her the other stuff separately.

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