(Closed) Is it ok to go somewhat Bridezilla?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If they still haven’t picked and can’t make up their minds with your wedding getting so close, I say give them the options and save yourself the stress

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If they haven’t chosen anything yet, and these are fit their budgets, I don’t think suggesting they choose one of these dresses is being a “bridezilla”.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Have you given your bridesmaids a hard deadline for picking our their dresses? Like, “please have your dress ordered by April 6th.” If not, I think you should do that before limiting their options. BMs sometimes don’t realize how long it actually takes to get a dress from DB.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

They will probably be relieved. At some point, they start just wanting to get this type of thing over with (rightfully so, it can be really stressful and who likes trying on a million dresses but not commiting to anything?). I would go ahead and pick the options and let the thing unfold with some of your direction.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t see it as a bridezilla thing. I snet out feelers for my girls a month ago, wedding is in 80 days and only one person has a dress. I refuse to stress about it so if they don’t have a dress then they wont stand up with me. Problem solved. ( I have 8 Bridesmaid or Best Man I’d be happy to have one less! BUT they are getting thier own dresses from wherever they want. SO I don’t have to order it. IF I DID have to place an order I’d for sure tell them that if they haven’t choosen by said date I would choose for them. In a very nice pleasant way of course with a smile. I know everyone has busy schedules ladies but I need this to be done by __ or else I choose.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@truefrommetoyou: I think you aren’t being bridezilla by making such a request. You can phrase it in terms of logistics much like you did here. Facts are facts. Prom season is coming up, you want to be sure they get something they like well enough and that there aren’t any shipping issues. You can also phrase it in terms of guidance, as in, “Hey, I know we’ve shopped a couple times and had some good ideas as a result. To help you all decide, here are some options I came across that I’d like you to consider/choose from based on what I observed from our previous shopping trips. What do you ladies think? Would you please respond by (give them 1 week to reply) with your thoughts?” As PP said, give them a definite deadline by which to order and have the store double check the dress can still arrive on time.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I attempted to go the route you did…giving them the color, length and fabric and allowing them to look on their own (I have a size 2, size 12, size 18 and size 24). I didn’t really know what I wanted and I didn’t have my heart set on all of them having the same dress.

None of them looked – so I scheduled a time to go to Alfred Angelo together…it was this past Saturday. Again I was going to let them all decide on their own, but while they were trying on, a vision of what I wanted popped into my head. They all had one dress in their top 3, and I loved it and it flattered all of them…so I had to make a decision. They all agreed and are happy with it.

I don’t think it’s bridezilla-like to make a decision.

FYI : Alfred Angelo style 7056 — no idea if this is a look you would like, but it’s Chiffon and flatters all shapes and sizes (I’m not saying this to be nice..it really does, I’m a size 20 and tried it on just to see the shape it gave me) – the 18 and 24 are getting wraps to cover their arms — AA has all of their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses on sale right now)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t think this is being bridezilla at all – I think it’s being sensible!  Like you said, prom season is almost here, so getting the order in is important.  Just make sure that they order by your deadline, or let them know that they will be responsible for rush fees (if DB even does rush).

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Those look like nice options that you chose…definitely not bridezilla! Just getting things done!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I HATE dealing with the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.   My sister’s are being nightmares.   They finally thought they found one and I had to agree but it changed my entire colour scheme.  I wanted grey and cranberry.  They wanted black.  I’m kind of glad they haven’t ordered them as I HATE the dresses they picked.  I think I need to get my Bridezilla out.

 

 

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