Post # 1
I have 3 sisters that i’m very close to and am having a hard time choosing just one to be my maid of honor? is it ok just just call them all maids of honor? I want each and everyone of them by my side for different reasons and I don’t feel like there is one right choice. Thoughts? Suggestion?
Post # 3
Ultimately you will still have the decide the order in which they walk in, they order in which they sit or stand next to you, so having 3 maids of honor wont eliminate that fact that you still have to choose which one will do the Maid/Matron of Honor duties, such as hold your bouquet when you need them to or be your first point of contact during the wedding if you need anything.
Post # 4
It’s your wedding, do what makes you happy. Our best friend is getting married later this year and he couldn’t decide who to make his best man so he made all 3 groomsmen (my DH is one of them) co-best men. It is a little awkward, because no one wants to be the alpha male and take over the bachelor party plans, but at the same time all 3 of them want to take the reins on it. I’d say so far, that is the only difficulties I’ve noticed.
Also, my DH was a little hurt that he was not chosen to be the single best man. So I’m not sure if making them all co-best men spared any hurt feelings.
Post # 5
I have 2 sisters and we were each each other’s Maids of Honour. Can you work out this arrangement with them? And then have them pick who gets to be your Maid/Matron of Honor (think Friends when Monica got married)
Post # 6
One of my friends had an Maid/Matron of Honor team with three girls on it. It worked just fine for her!
Post # 7
@bells: this is what I was thinking. Even if you have 3 you will still have to have a ‘grand supreme MoH’ because only one person can walk that spot, hold the bouquet, etc.
Post # 8
Why not make them all BMs and just not have an maid of honor? It’ll get rid of the “elevated” title all together?
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Why not? I’m having two matrons of honor. I think especially since this are your sisters, it’s perfectly fine. “MOH team”- I like it! And you could ask them to have different responsibilities- one holds your flowers, another signs the license, etc.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
@smellyelly3: I agree. No matter what you do, one maid of honor will have more honor than the rest, so I think it’s best to just choose one and be done with it. You can make it totally superficial and order them by height for the aesthetics of the ceremony and make the tallest one your MoH, or you can order them by age, or choose the one closest to your age, etc.
Post # 11
I have 3 Maid/Matron of Honor and 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man and it’s not causing problems. I originally had 2/5 but my local Maid/Matron of Honor fell off the planet for a bit and my other Maid/Matron of Honor lived 1000 miles away so one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man really stepped up and did so much and I felt she needed to be honored for that.
Post # 12
Do what makes you happy. I have two MOHs my best friend and my SIL.
Since the Best Man will be on the alter with my Fiance I will have my brother walk the two MOHs down the aisle. I will have BFF stand next to me so she walks out with Best Man and SIL walks out with my brother her husband. I knew bother girls live near me and will both be attending fittings, meetings, DIYing stuff with me. So I didn’t think it fair to only give on credit.
SIL and her sister also both had two MOHs. Each other and their other sister. And no problems there either. The sisters actually gave joint speaches both times and it was hilarious. They took turns talking and it was adorable.
Post # 13
It’s your day and you can choose who can stand with you. one, three, five? If they are all dear to you, I say Why not?
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
@abbie017: This is exactly what I’m planning on doing.
Why make the others feel bad by picking your BEST best friend? This is not kindergarten.
Post # 15
@abbie017: I think this is a great idea.
Post # 16
I guess I don’t see the point… but if it makes you happy or works out, do it!