Post # 1
My colleague’s boyfriend is a DJ and she suggested that he can spin at our wedding. I like his price ($600) because it’s below our budget and can save us a lot of money. But after having spoken to her, I became a bit worried: I asked her about a contract and the cost of the deposit for him. She said they don’t do contracts for friends, that it’s just an honor system. She also said that since we’re her friends that we don’t need to give him any deposit because and we can just give him the full payment on the night of the wedding. I know she is a nice girl and I somewhat trust her, but having no contract kind of makes me nervous. What if he flakes out on the night of the wedding? I won’t have a piece of paper to claim his services. At the same time, I don’t want to ask for a contract because it might send the message that I don’t trust her. What should I do? Should I go with a more expensive yet formal DJ? Should I draft up my own contract and have my friend’s boyfriend sign it? Or should I just trust her and hope everything goes well?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I would DEFINITELY not be okay without a contract. If you trust this person enough, then go for it…but that would make me super nervous!
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
No. If you have no contract and you pay no deposit, then he can just not show up and owe you nothing. Paying a deposit binds him to perform his end of the bargain, but even then you shouldn’t hand over money without a contract. I wouldn’t trust something this important to the honor system, unfortunately.
Post # 5
Frankly, a contract is only useful if you plan to back it up by going to court. If this is someone you would be willing to sue if he failed to show, you need a contract. But if you really wouldn’t take him to court, the contract isn’t worth much.
I am an attorney, and I have two friends providing me with professional services, but I have no plans to have them sign contracts. If one screwed me, I would be pissed, but I don’t want the social repurcussions of a lawsuit.
On the other hand, my friends are only accepting a hotel room and a gift, no money. You are in the gray zone. Socially, it is acceptable either way. You could formulate the request that yourare protecting both of you, or that this is the only way your wedding insurance will cover his services (which could very well be true).
Post # 6
I would just tell her that you would feel more comfortable with a contract and paying her a deposit! If she doesn’t oblige I would be VERY worried about working with her!
Post # 7
I had my experience of having a no-contract vendor. My ceremony pianist is a local guy, doing this as a side gig as favors for brides in his town. He said, “no contract is needed; I’ve already put it in my calendar and you don’t even need to call me as a reminder.” The week before the wedding, I called anyway and left a voicemail. His wife called me back and told me that there’s nothing scheduled in his calendar and that he’s already scheduled something else the day of my wedding. Long story short, everybody is nice and he felt bad and found a replacement for me.
The moral of the story is, I guess, that it’s a risk. You do save $ and it’s kewl to have friends do stuff for you. But contracts not only protect you but also the vendor. You could sue your DJ friend based on verbal contract if you wanted to. He could have a family emergency and not feel obligated to find a decent replacement for you, etc. Just because you and the DJ (or his gf) are friends doesn’t mean that you guys are immune to last-minute emergencies. Although August is not super far away, it’s also not unheard of that relationships may gone awry like your colleague breaks up with her bf or you suddenly have an awkward relationship with your colleague.
If you feel that you’re ok with a backup plan (like iPod reception), then I say go for it. Or if you have a day-of or month-of wedding coordinator that helps you coordinate things including emergencies that happen in the last min (or rather, last month leading up till). If u don’t have enough buffers, I would go with one with a contract.
Post # 8
I guess in this case, I would prefer to be a regular client than a friend. I’d feel better with a contract, friend or no friend. Without a contract to me is like doing it for as a favor, and this is not just a favor as you are still paying good money for it. Also, this pesron is your colleague’s bf – you don’t have a direct relationship with him and what if something happens to their relationship and things go wrong between the DJ and you? I think I’d just feel safer with a contract. :/
Post # 9
Get a contract! I know hes a “friend” but if they normally do contracts you are not out of line to ask for one. Being on the other end of things, we booked a DJ for holiday parties we were having at work and he sent an invoice without a contract. Now unfortunately both of the parties might be cancelled and our Accounting will not pay him because we didnt have a contract to. So not only is he out other dates he couldve booked but hes out the money from us too. It stinks and I feel horrible for him. Just be safe and get a contract. You’d hate for something to happen and end up with no DJ a week before your wedding.
Post # 10
Ask the DJ or your coworker what happens if he gets sick or has a family emergency. Whether you ultimately sign a contract or not, you should have a clear back-up plan. Also, whether you sign a contract or not, I would definitely check in with the DJ (and back-up) several times to make sure everything is on track as wedding draws nearer.
Post # 11
A verbal contract isn’t worth the paper its written on…
I would definitely insist on a contract. Draft one yourself or ask for one of his, even if he doesn’t do contracts for friends. I’d also suggest that you stop going through his gf & talk to him directly! 🙂
Post # 12
Thank you ladies!
@ Monitajb – They’re not very close friends but I still wouldn’t take them to court. Thank you for mentioning the wedding insurance, it’s a good idea to get a contract out of this deal.
@ pren79 – That’s terrible, about the pianist, but in reality it does happen, things come up and something similar could very well happen with this DJ we’re considering. Another thing you mentioned got me worried, which is the fact that their relationship could go awry. My friend did mention to me that they have been going through a rough patch lately, and it certainly is possible for them to part ways even before my wedding. Yikes!
@ RecessionisaBride – My fiance suggested the same thing, which is for us to draft up a contract, I guess I have to do some research on what should be on it.
Do you guys have any suggestons on what I should include in the contract besides, the date, payment, back-up plan (in case any circumstances arise that will prevent him from providing service)?