Post # 1
So I had no idea what the dollar dance even was until recently, but I’m really thinking that I don’t want to do it! I think it would just be really awkward because I don’t know A LOT of the people that are going to be there. I still plan on going around and mingling a lot, but will feel a lot more comfortable doing that with Fiance at my side since most of the people are his relatives that I’ve never met before. But are people like expecting this or can I just omit it?
Post # 3
I think this is absolutely something you can omit. Depending on where you live (my understanding is that it’s a regional/cultural thing), people probably won’t miss it. Personally, I’m not a fan at all.
Post # 4
I had never heard of it until FSIL’s wedding! It’s not common at all around here, and I don’t like it personally, so we have no qualms about skipping it.
Post # 5
You can absolutely omit it if you don’t want to do it. The dollar dance was very much a tradition in the weddings i have attended but I did not want one and neither did my hubby. Sure, some guests asked my parents about it but honestly it really didn’t bother anyone.
Post # 6
My family has had it in some weddings but it really wasn’t expected. I did try and go around and dance with a bunch of different people, and I didn’t tell my husband to do this but he did end up cutting in after awhile which I thought was super cute.
Post # 7
Every single wedding I’ve been to has had the dollar dance – it’s part of our heritage/culture, but my husband and I really weren’t feeling it, so we didn’t have it. A few people asked us about it, but I just told them we weren’t really into it and they were fine with that.
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Absolutely. The dollar dance is very much a southern tradition, and a lot of people have never heard of it. I live in the south and almost every wedding I’ve ever been to has had one, but we’re not doing it, because we’re just not all that comfortable with it!
Post # 9
The dollar dance is definitely optional, from my understanding it is a regional/cultural tradition anyway. If you are not comfortable doing the Dear Daughter, don’t do it! Replace it with an anniversary dance, or nothing at all 🙂 It’s your day, make sure you fill it with things that make you happy 🙂
Post # 10
I’m from the south and I’ve never seen or heard of this until I got on the bee. Definitely something I wouldn’t personalyl feel comfortable doing.
Post # 11
We are not doing it. I think it takes up way too much time and guests get antsy having to sit through 30 minutes of slow dancing!
Post # 12
On a side note, my friend did one a few years back and I was in charge of collecting the “dollar”. Let’s just say that guests donated a whole lot more! Some men were dropping $20 bills in there! I think she made a few hundred dollars from that dance!
Post # 13
It’s your wedding, and if you don’t want to do it, then don’t. We’re not having it at our dance either. While I’m not expecting the same thing to happen twice, my sister had several people come up to her and give her money since she didn’t have the dollar dance. Would have never guessed that would have happened!
Post # 14
I’m as southerner as well and have never seen this…with one exception my cousin did this and i found it a little distasteful…i had no idea until i read this that it was even considered “southern”
definitely omit if you’re not comfortable with it…its YOUR day!! =) keep repeating this to yourself…i think it’s something all bees need to do everyday…including myself
Post # 16
I really don’t want to do it either….IDK…