Post # 1
Man, I had no idea that makeup/hair sytlists were SO friggin expensive!! I asked my BMs what services they would like done for the wedding to help me estimate the total cost of different potential stylists. Two said they only want hair done, and one (not the MOH) said she’d like both hair and makeup. The thing is, it looks like the total for all of that (and me and my trial) is going to run about $1200. That is so not in the budget!
Is it ok to tell my BMs that I’ll pay for all three of them to get their hair done, but if they want their makeup done, they’ll have to pay for it themselves? Especially since it’s only one Bridesmaid or Best Man (and not the MOH) who would want her makeup done? The difference would save me about $100-150. (Stupid San Francisco prices!) Is that rude or awkward?
Post # 3
As long as hair and makeup is an option (not a requirement), it’s totally fine for them to pay for themselves. If they’re considered about the money, they can always just do it themselves.
Post # 4
@HelloKittyEsq: I think the general rule is that if you’re giving them the option to do it or not, then it’s on them. If you are requiring it, it’s on you.
Post # 5
Its ok as long as you don’t require them to have there makeup done proffesionally.
Post # 6
Totally fine as long as you’re not requiring them to get their make-up done. Since it’s her choice to have it done, she can pay for it.
Post # 7
As long as YOU are not demanding that they have these things done, YOU are not obligated to pay for anything; not their dress, their hair, their makeup, their jewelery, etc. Now, some people offer to pay for some things as their “gift” to their ‘maids, but it’s not required. I think what you want to do is totally OK.
Post # 8
As the PP have said if you aren’t requiring them to have their makeup done then no you don’t have to pay. If you demand professional makeup then you should pay.
Post # 9
That’s what I’m doing. I figure it’s more challenging to get your hair right than to do your own makeup. I’m still giving them the option to get it done when I am though
Post # 10
I’ve never had it paid for! When I was my BFF’s Maid/Matron of Honor, we were given the option to do our own hair/makeup or pay $100 for it. I paid because I wanted the chance to get a little dressed up. Turned out the woman was a non-pro who brought her non-sanitized dollar store makeup in a caboodle case…but that’s another story for a different thread, ha).
Post # 11
i don’t think it’s required to pay for it. i know some brides will actually require it done at a certain place and expect their bms to pay.
some of my bms wanted hair and some wanted makeup. i decided to just go ahead and pay for everyone’s.
Post # 12
That’s exactly what I’m doing – paying for hair, and if they want make-up they’re responsible for covering it. All four of them chose to get the make-up, and seemed grateful about the hair. It might get a bit awkward because I paid the deposit and there’s an automatic 20% gratuity, so I’ll probably pay for it day-of and have them hit me back, but otherwise there is absolutely nonissue.
Post # 13
I think so. Most women can do their own makeup.
Post # 14
I think it is fine, since you aren’t forcing them to get their make up done. How nice of you to pay for their hair!
Post # 15
Mine is costing about the same. I wasn’t going to pay for it at all since it is totally their choice whether they get it done or not. I’m not requiring it.
But I’m paying for my trial this weekend in cash then giving my MUA a cheque for 50% of the remaining balance. I’m thinking that on my wedding day, I will pay for 1/2 of the bill and have the 4 of them cover the remaning bill & tip…
It is expensive & they paid for a nice dress, are throwing me 2 showers (1 in my hometown & one my FI’s hometown where the wedding will be), took me out for a fab bachelorette last weekend and they are travelling OOT & paying for at least 2 nights in a nice hotel.
I’m also getting them a nice gift but I did choose a more expensive MUA b/c she came so highly rated & I didn’t want to take a chance. So I want to show my gratitude, just don’t tell Fiance…lol
Post # 16
Thanks ladies, this is super helpful! I’m absolutely not requiring or even asking them to get their hair or makeup done! I know that I personally cannot do my own hair at all, so I figured I’d pay for their hair. I had wanted to pay for their makeup as well, but since two don’t want it and it’s more expensive than I thought it was gonna be, I just feel a little guilty not offering to pay for it for the one girl. But honestly, she’s visiting nearby (about 1.5hrs away) and she’s not even coming down to visit and she doesn’t ask how wedding plans are going!
We haven’t talked about showers or bachelorette party or anything like that, and I don’t think the two BMs (including the one who wants both done) were planning to come to town to participate even if my Maid/Matron of Honor did plan one or two events for me. Their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses btw were only $50 for Amsale (original $300) each that I spent hours on Gilt and RueLaLa finding!