(Closed) Is it ok to only pay for my BMs’ hair and not makeup?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is it ok to only pay for my BMs' hair and not makeup?
    YES, totally ok : (48 votes)
    91 %
    NO, you should pay for both hair and makeup : (2 votes)
    4 %
    Other, please describe below : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    As long as hair and makeup is an option (not a requirement), it’s totally fine for them to pay for themselves. If they’re considered about the money, they can always just do it themselves.

    Post # 4
    1774 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @HelloKittyEsq:  I think the general rule is that if you’re giving them the option to do it or not, then it’s on them. If you are requiring it, it’s on you.

    Post # 5
    1735 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Its ok as long as you don’t require them to have there makeup done proffesionally.

    Post # 6
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Totally fine as long as you’re not requiring them to get their make-up done. Since it’s her choice to have it done, she can pay for it.

    Post # 7
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    As long as YOU are not demanding that they have these things done, YOU are not obligated to pay for anything; not their dress, their hair, their makeup, their jewelery, etc. Now, some people offer to pay for some things as their “gift” to their ‘maids, but it’s not required. I think what you want to do is totally OK.

    Post # 8
    11167 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    As the PP have said if you aren’t requiring them to have their makeup done then no you don’t have to pay. If you demand professional makeup then you should pay.

    Post # 9
    138 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    That’s what I’m doing. I figure it’s more challenging to get your hair right than to do your own makeup. I’m still giving them the option to get it done when I am though

    Post # 10
    1211 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I’ve never had it paid for! When I was my BFF’s Maid/Matron of Honor, we were given the option to do our own hair/makeup or pay $100 for it. I paid because I wanted the chance to get a little dressed up. Turned out the woman was a non-pro who brought her  non-sanitized dollar store makeup in a caboodle case…but that’s another story for a different thread, ha).

    Post # 11
    822 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i don’t think it’s required to pay for it.  i know some brides will actually require it done at a certain place and expect their bms to pay.

    some of my bms wanted hair and some wanted makeup.  i decided to just go ahead and pay for everyone’s.

    Post # 12
    443 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    That’s exactly what I’m doing – paying for hair, and if they want make-up they’re responsible for covering it. All four of them chose to get the make-up, and seemed grateful about the hair. It might get a bit awkward because I paid the deposit and there’s an automatic 20% gratuity, so I’ll probably pay for it day-of and have them hit me back, but otherwise there is absolutely nonissue. 


    Post # 13
    4371 posts
    Honey bee

    I think so. Most women can do their own makeup.

    Post # 14
    813 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I think it is fine, since you aren’t forcing them to get their make up done. How nice of you to pay for their hair!

    Post # 15
    509 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Mine is costing about the same. I wasn’t going to pay for it at all since it is totally their choice whether they get it done or not. I’m not requiring it.

    But I’m paying for my trial this weekend in cash then giving my MUA a cheque for 50% of the remaining balance. I’m thinking that on my wedding day, I will pay for 1/2 of the bill and have the 4 of them cover the remaning bill & tip…

    It is expensive & they paid for a nice dress, are throwing me 2 showers (1 in my hometown & one my FI’s hometown where the wedding will be), took me out for a fab bachelorette last weekend and they are travelling OOT & paying for at least 2 nights in a nice hotel.

    I’m also getting them a nice gift but I did choose a more expensive MUA b/c she came so highly rated & I didn’t want to take a chance. So I want to show my gratitude, just don’t tell Fiance…lol

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