(Closed) Is it ok to revoke a bridesmaid????

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

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jmeetsj:  Sounds like she doesn’t want to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man since she didn’t answer. I wouldn’t even bring it up again. SHe probably won’t write you back anyways and you may not have to deal with it.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

Agreed, Id just let that one go. How’s it going to be tracking her down for dress measurements etc?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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jmeetsj:  Honestly, it sounds like you dodged a bullet here. She’s going to be a nightmare to communicate with and will probably only stress you out. I would just drop it at this point – she can respond if she wants. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

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jmeetsj:  I had a similar communication problem with one of my bridesmaids and we mutually decided she wasn’t a good fit to be a bridesmaid in my wedding. 

It sounds like if she doesn’t answer, then the problem solves itself 🙂

When my bridesmaid (who isn’t one anymore) wouldn’t contact me, I told her that being a bridesmaid has certain resposibilties and that if she couldn’t attend the bridesmaid fitting (there were two days she could go and we live in the same town) that her dress wouldn’t come on time and she’d have to give up her spot as a bridesmaid. We then discussed it further and came to the conclusion that she didn’t have the time to do bridesmaid tasks and agreed to come just as a guest.

Good luck!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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jmeetsj:  I would just let it go.  I also had a bridesmaid who said she would be in the wedding and she never ordered her dress. I texted her to remind her that she needed to order her dress and after multiple times of telling her and still not ordering it I just let it go.  We are still friends and I never brought it up again.  In my case, she wasn’t in good shape financially so I understood.  

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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jmeetsj:  If you have someone else in mind, try asking them. If not, 2 bridesmaids is enough also! Plan it without her and if she comes back in a month and says, “Oh man, sorry I was so busy. Of course I’ll be your BM” just politely tell her that since you hadn’t heard an answer from her, you went on with planning without her. This way, she cannot be mad because it was her fault. And, you don’t have to officially “revoke” the role and have that awkward conversation.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

Sounds like there’s not even anything to revoke! Just move forward without her, and invite her as a guest later.

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