Post # 46
If being a good Christian wife means to never say no in regards to intimacy, does that mean that in marriage, there are elements of condoning deception or with holding the truth from your partner?
I think my partner would extremely be hurt if I kept certain details or truths from him, including not telling him I was feeling x,y,z during moments of initiated intimacy.
Post # 47
- Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman
I’m an atheist and I almost never turn down my fiancé. It’s not because he’s forcing me, it’s just because I like making him happy, and I enjoy the physical bond that we have, so even if I’m not totally in the mood, I still get enjoyment from it. With that said he would never even suggest the idea if he could tell I wasn’t feeling well, and if for any reason I did say no, he would absolutely respect that. Good relationships are ones where you both try to make the other happy, if you were miserably giving in to sex, and your partner knew, that would be selfish of him. Focus on each other but know when to focus on yourself too.
Post # 48
robinvalentine: I am a christian (practicing…not just ‘occasional’) and heck yes it is ok to say “NO”…your husband is not your master and you are not his slave. If your church teaches otherwise I would consider finding a new one that treats you like a human that God made you.
Post # 49
Taught by who? Like, taught at home by your parents, or at church as part of teen youth group? Or by the pastor during pre-marriage counselling? I was raised and very active in a fundamentalist religion and we were never taught this. Granted, I left the church before I got married, but I was old enough that some of my girlfriends got married and I’m sure they would have shared this with me if it was sprung on them last minute or something. If you learned this from the Duggars or their ilk, well….. you’re choosing to follow some very flawed humans.
Post # 50
Hey girl, I’m a christian too, and it is ok to say no! Just talk to him about how your feeling! I’m assuming he’s a christian man too and he will totally get it. 🙂
Post # 51
Wow, some of you guys are very upset. My hubby doesn’t pressure me into doing anythng, it’s all in me. I’m the one that feels guilty about saying “no”. I have to deprogram my thinking & yes, if I told him, he would understand. I just don’t know how to approach it. I was hoping to get some postitive feedback on approaching it. I like to thank you ladies for addressing this.