(Closed) Is it ok to send a seperate Reservation Card for guests to come after dinner?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I don’t know that I would invite them to the ceremony and then exclude them for a portion and then bring them back.  I think they either come afterwards in a more informal way, or that they come to the whole enchillada.

The point of the reception is to thank your guests for coming out to share in your day.  To invite someone and then tell them no dinner seems wrong to me.  But if they aren’t invited the the wedding it is more informal.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I wouldn’t do this… I know you want to include as many people as you can, but it’s kinda insulting to be left out of the ‘more expensive’ portion of the evening.  I wouldn’t have even invited people to the reception only, but I see you’ve already done that (with good results, which is great).  I think it’s a little wrong to send the message that people are important enough to see you get married and party with you afterward, but not important enough to be served dinner when others are.  You know?

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Honestly, even though it’s a bit of an etiquette no-no, the fact that you talked to all your friends individually seems fine to me.  It’s nice that they understand, and as long as they’re all young and local, it sounds like a great way to celebrate with your friends.  But I wouldn’t invite them to the ceremony.  It just makes it so much more obvious that they’re excluded from the main reception.  However, if you know your friends and think they’d want to come anyway, then that’s your call.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Informal, or whole shebang.  Pick your poison.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Miss OBG: Ditto, those were my exact thoughts.  I am usually big on the big “E”, but since you talked to them go for it.  I would also not send them a ceremony invite.

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