(Closed) is it ok to use married name on invitations while still engaged?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
510 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I had the same debate. … You’re not supposed to use your married name until after you’re married…. so my suggestion/what we’re going to do….

Stacey and Justin

343 roanoke ave

california, md


It’ll do for the wedding, and then I’ll get a rubber stamp for thank you/christmas cards!


Post # 4
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I definitely wouldn’t put your new last name on pre-wedding stationary.  If I saw that I would think it was really weird.  I was going to suggest the exact same thing as the above poster, get a stamp with just your first names on it.

Post # 5
2236 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with PP…it would be really strange for you to use a name that isn’t yours (which your married name won’t be until you legally change your name).  My return address stamp will just be our first names.

Post # 6
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You can order it but I wouldn’t use it until after the wedding.  Guests will probably give you the side-eye for using your married name already lol  We just did first names on our stamp so that we could use it for everything for the wedding as well since we live together in a house we own.

Post # 7
1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

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@Violachap: Our stamp was just our first names as well, and we’ve enjoyed (LOVED) using it before the wedding and since the wedding. It’s on all our thank-you notes. No, I wouldn’t use your married name before the wedding, for a variety of reasons, one of which being that you’d confuse a lot of people.

Post # 8
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i agree with PP that you should just order a stamp with your first names only…that is actually on my list of things to do in the next few weeks. i’m in love with the hand-written one mrs. penguin posted about recently, but it’s pretty pricey.

Post # 9
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would just do the first names and save the new last name stamp for after your wedding. People might think it’s weird to have it on there already, or wonder if you’re already legally married.

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