Post # 107
I don’t see a problem with it. If it was all white, perhaps but this clearly is a pretty dress not designed to upstage the bride. Unless you go in a blatant attempt to show up the brides, chances are good that she won’t even notice or care.
Post # 108
I would say that the fact that you have to ask means you shouldn’t do it. There are a million appropriate dresses out there, so I wouldn’t wear anything that would even possibly be offensive or inappropriate. By the way, it is a super cute dress for another occasion though!
Post # 109
I’d ask the bride if you’re really in love with it. Send her the picture, if necessary. But I’d just think… if I have to question it, I wouldn’t wear it. Nobody will think you’re the bride, but it’s just respectful not to wear white, ya know?
Post # 110
I would get a thick coloured belt and some coloured shoes with colourful accessories and you won’t see much white.
Post # 111
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I don’t see anything wrong with this dress…doesn’t look bridal at all to me.
Post # 112
This may be me just being a laid-back bride, but I thought I would care if someone wore white at my wedding. Someone wore a completely white dress, and I honestly couldn’t have cared less. I think the fact that the dress doesn’t look like a wedding dress makes it appropriate. I say go ahead and wear it. Trust me, the bride has more important things to worry about.
Post # 113
That dress looks nothing like a wedding dress.
Post # 114
I voted no. I don’t think anyone would confuse you with the bride, and I do think it is the right fabric/shape for the occasion. However, I think that part of the white rule is so that a guest does not pull too much attention away from the bride in photos. I think the big column of white in the middle would be very distracting in photos, so if it were me and I had any other options, I would try to find something else.
Post # 115
It seems okay to me, but always err on the side of safety. If it seems at all iffy, don’t wear it.
Post # 117
It’s borderline…I wouldn’t think twice about it if i saw you in that (especially with the chunky pink belt suggestion). BUT–I’m not the bride this wedding. She might be really offended by it. As might her other more conservative guests.
Frankly, I’d err on the safe side and just wear something else. There are PLENTY of great summery dresses out there that don’t have white in them.
Post # 118
I say yes especially with it being a beach wedding, with red jewellery it’ll look great.
Post # 119
I wouldn’t. Too much of it is big blocks of white. I’m sure you have another dress you could wear. Of course, you can always send the photo to the bride if you really believe she’ll tell you the truth. Generally, I tend to be of the mind of “If you have to ask if it’s ok, you probably know it’s not.”
Post # 120
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
I wouldn’t notice at the time that you wore a mostly white dress, but when looking back at my pictures I wouldn’t be too happy. Buy a chunky belt to wear with it? Or something?
My rule of thumb is 80% white, no go.
Post # 121
I really dislike the idea that if a bride doesn’t like someone where a mostly white or a full white dress at her wedding that she is a bridezilla or uptight… Just because a bride would prefer if her guests didn’t wear mostly white doesn’t make her a control freak.
I think it means, “Hey, it’s my big day, and I’m the one that wears white. You knew that when you came to my wedding, and there are tons of options out there… still, for some reason you had to choose the white dress.” It is a courtesy/respect thing.
If you have to ask if wearing something with white in it is appropriate, it probably isn’t. Now, patterns that have a bit of white in them… that seems like a different story.
However wedding styles are so varying now that I would never wear white to a wedding. Many brides wear short white dresses, I have even seen some wear more casual white dresses, particularly at casual weddings.
It is really my one sticking point with the whole guest dress thing. Otherwise I’m a pretty casual, non-control freak, non-uptight person and future bride. I wouldn’t throw you out for wearing a white dress, but I’d probably shake my head at it, to be honest.