Post # 1
So I’m a pretty tall girl (5’9 1/2) and my fiancé is about the same height as me. When we go out, I don’t have any problem wearing heals and being taller than him, and he doesnt mind either. But I am struggling with the desicion to wear heals at my wedding.
On the one hand, I want to wear heals to give me height and posture, and elongate my leg-line. On the other, I don’t want to tower over my husband since it may look odd in pictures, and also I don’t want him to feel short (because we all know men hate that….)
What to do?
Post # 3
have you asked your Fiance how he feels about you being taller?
Post # 4
I personally don’t think you should wear heels. I just think it will look awkward in your pictures, when you have your first dance, and when you stand together in general. I am also close in height to my Fiance and he told me that he would rather me wear flats or small heels to keep from appearing taller than him. I would suggest asking your Fiance about it and see how he feels about the situation.
Post # 5
I’d see how he feels about it. If he doesn’t care, then rock the heels — there is no “should”, only what works for you and your Fiance.
It’s a really silly aspect of our culture that men HAVE to be taller than women – it isn’t as if people choose their height, and I’ve never understood how someone could let a guy’s height dictate whether or not they could be a good match romantically. My best friend is taller than her fiance and neither of them has a problem with it.
Post # 6
If your Fiance doesn’t have a problem with you wearing heels when you go out I can’t see it being a problem to wear them on your wedding day. I would however (like the PP said) ask him how he would feel about it.
Post # 7
@Jamcnair: Good idea, ask the man! It’s his opinion that counts!
Post # 8
Ask your Fiance for his opinion – if he’s marrying a tall girl best to know know what he thinks now! Since you normally wear heels when you go out together sounds like it’s a non-issue.
There is no rule that says a woman can’t be taller than her guy, as long as you are both comfortable with it. And a good photographer will know how to use the camera angles to make you both look lovely, regardless of height, if that’s something you’re concerned about.
Post # 9
If he doesn’t mind and it would make you happier, go for it. My friend is taller than her husband and she wore a very low shoe at her wedding and was still taller. I don’t remember noticing it. 🙂
Post # 11
I agree that you should wear whatever is more comfortable for the both of you. I was told that noone notices if the bride is taller than the groom, they are too busy noticing how gorgeous the couple is 🙂
Post # 12
When wearing heels I’m about the same height as my fiance. He would prefer me to wear a flat or low heel so we aren’t eye level with each other. Doesn’t bother me though as I would rather wear comfy flats vs. heels all day! I ordered the toms wedding white shoes this morning and can’t wait to get them. Very blingy and I can definitely re-use them!
Post # 13
I would mostly be worried about comfort 😛 Heels can be painful especially after 6 or so hours of non stop entertaining, so make sure you wear something that you won’t regret 2 hours later!!
I’m also 5’9 and Boyfriend or Best Friend is 6’1 (however because he has horrible posture we look like we’re the same height) so i NEVER wear heels around him although I love them!…HOWEVER…when it comes to a wedding, I would still wear flats because, you know, the comfort issue we already discussed, but also because you will look beautifully elongated no matter what because of your height.There are some adorable flats (or maybe ones with a thick kitten heel) that you can look at.
I say wear what makes you feel beautiful (and doesn’t give you blisters!)
Keep us posted on what you choose please 🙂
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Ask your fiance, and then also take into consideration that if he is wearing dress shoes, most have an elevation of about an inch, sometimes more. You can also take your shoes off for some of the formal pictures (if they aren’t crazy tall at least).
Post # 15
Rock the heels if your Fiance doesn’t care or mind you being taller!
Post # 16
I wouldn’t/didn’t but that’s just me. both Darling Husband and I are short, and when I wear heels, we’re super close in height. So, I wore like 2.5 in heels on the big day. They were still really pretty shoes, but I was glad to be shorter than him in the photos.