(Closed) Is it okay for a guest to wear a long dress?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
8467 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

A long dress is perfectly fine! I’d definitely consider one for a winter wedding. 

Post # 48
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

There are NO etiquette rules about what guests should wear to a wedding, except one obviously should not wear a bridal gown!

Wearing white is OK. Jeans are OK. The most important thing, actually, is for the bridal couple and hosts not to get their knickers in a twist about what anybody wears to the wedding. They are guests, not hired bit actors in a stage play.

But as to your specific question, no, your informant is quite misinformed – long dresses are absolutely appropriate for a wedding, or for any other event to which you may choose to wear a long dress.


Post # 49
5062 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would definetly say yes it’s okay to wear a long dress, especially in winter. 

Warm guests are happy guests! 

Post # 50
1409 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I was just reading something where Mr. Tim Gunn told a girl who was insecure about her legs that she could wear a floor-length dress to a summer wedding as long as the dress was otherwise appropriate for the level of formality. Tim Gunn has arguably the most impeccable taste on the planet, so I’d say you can definitely get away with it for a winter wedding 🙂 …or you could wear thick sweater tights, that’s what I’d do.

Post # 51
2513 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

In December it’ll be dark by 5 here.  So you could stretch the formal length gown into the late afternoon (I personally think the time rule is dumb.) It’ll be dark/sunset by the time you’re out for a late ceremony, so you’ll be fine.  


I’d be more concerned about the formality of the event and if the dress is appropriate for it than I would be about the length.  A full length dress doesn’t always equal formal (think maxi dresses, etc.) I always err on the side of overdressed/too formal if I’m unsure. 

ETA: The rent the runway (here there’s a place called rentafrock – same thing) is AWESOME.  I use it all the time.  I’d rather spend the money on an amazing dress and ship it back to them than buy a bunch of cocktail dresses that I rarely wear.  A lot of the events I go to have repeat guests – so I can’t really get away with rewearing one dress. This way I can wear an awesome designer dress for a fraction of the cost and wear different ones at every event.  I will likely use them for my rehearsal dress.  

Post # 52
7973 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

This is bizarre. If in doubt, there is no harm in being a little more conservative and prim than everyone else.

In other words… better to long a dress than too short!

Post # 53
166 posts
Blushing bee

NO such thing.  Never was.  In fact, “evening wear” and “formal wear” all emphasize long dresses, and they are not for the bridal party!  Good grief, where do ppl come up with this stuff?

Grab a dress that makes you look and feel spectacular and party on.  Have a great time, stay warm.

Post # 54
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2022

As long as it’s not white/ivory and the bride doesn’t care, you should definitely go for a long dress.

Post # 55
798 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Pit:  yes it is okay! especially if it is a true formal wedding– it is preferred. 

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