(Closed) is it okay not to have a registry

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
18628 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s fine to not have a registry for the wedding.  I would have your parents get out the word that you would prefer cash since you already have a house.  You might end up getting some weird gifts you don’t want but that happens even if you are registered.

Post # 4
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t understand the distinction between a shower registry and a wedding registry. Most of our gifts were bought at the shower, we added some additional stuff close to the wedding just so people still had options if they wanted to give a gift instead of cash.. but it was all the same registry.

Post # 7
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

ahh ok.. well word will probably get out so if people really want to buy you a gift they can find out where you registered (or know where to get you a gift card).   And you also have something set up to point people towards if they specifically ask you.. since you can flat out tell them you want cash. I feel like everyone should at least have a small registry so it’s not like you’re screaming “give us your money!!”.. but it sounds like you have that covered so you’re good to go.

Post # 8
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s fine not to have a registy, but just be prepared for some really weird, non-returnable gifts!  One of my favorites was an engraved frame with my name misspelled.  Consider registering!  It makes these things less likely!

Post # 9
573 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

It’s fine, but some people will want to give you a gift and not cash. It’s nice to have a registry to make it easier on people who want to get you something tangible for your wedding, and so that you don’t get a hodge podge of different patterned dishes and cookware.

Post # 10
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Oh it’s better than ok. We didn’t have one either. With combining two complete households, we threw away or donated a TON of crap. Didn’t need any more. Besides, I dislike being told what to give as a gift and have never given anyone a gift from their registry so of course we didn’t even consider registering.

Post # 12
4485 posts
Honey bee

A registry is not required but if you don’t have one, you will end up with a ton of gifts you don’t want and can’t get rid of.

If you truly don’t need any household items and don’t want to replace anything, then register for fun stuff that you will use together. If you are into camping, register at a sporting good store, or register for entertainment stuff if you’d rather. Be creative with it. For example, wishpot.com lets you create your own registry from any website that doesn’t have a registry option.

Never assume that anyone will give cash gifts because many people do not give them for any occasion.

Post # 14
2820 posts
Sugar bee

Awesome!  I didn’t have a registry and my bridal shower and wedding went great gift wise.  Lots of charitable donations in our name, mainly useful gifts from the shower and mostly money and a few gifts at the wedding.  We only took two things back.

Post # 15
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We had a similar dilemma. We mostly want cash since we are saving up for a house. But we wanted to give people the option if they didn’t want to give cash. We’d rather have just a few things on the registry than get weird gifts we don’t want or need. If you don’t have one, people will just ask you a lot what you want. I heard it’s proper ettiquette to have your Maid/Matron of Honor spread the word about the cash. 

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