Post # 1
Me and Fiance are paying for our wedding and everything ourselves so either of our parents arent chipping in for everything. People have been asking us if we are going to have a rehearsal dinner. We just told them no we cant afford to pay for everyone’s meal which is the truth. I mean, it was either that or have one and make everyone pay for there meal which I think is rude. Is it ok to not have a rehearsal dinner?
Post # 3
I think they should understand
Post # 4
We aren’t having one either. We are even skipping the rehearsal! It would have cost us double to book our officiant for a rehearsal and we felt like our family could kind of guide us through the night before if we really needed it. Since we are renting a beach house and everyone who would have been at the rehearsal is staying there we are just going to do like a BBQ or something.
Post # 5
we are having a rehearsal but the officiant isnt coming. Basically, I think it’s still important to make sure everyone know’s how to line up and walk down to the music at the right time etc
Post # 6
I don’t think it should be expected of you to throw a rehearsal dinner. That can be a huge added expense. Maybe you can coordinate to have everyone meet you at a lounge for a couple drinks afterward. In the understanding that they’ll all have to pay for whatever they get.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I don’t think it’s a big deal to skip the rehearsal dinner! Don’t worry too much about it.
Post # 8
Or, depending on where you are and the weather, maybe you could have a cookout or something very inexpensive? Or just a small appetizer kind of gathering, just to show your appreciation?
Post # 9
I get you on the budget issue, but I think it’s still nice to feed people if you want them to come and rehearse. Before Future Mother-In-Law offered to host a real rehearsal dinner, we were just going to order pizza. So maybe you could do something like that.
Post # 10
we arent having a formal rehearsal dinner either because we are paying for it all ourselves as well.
no invites or anything, just after the rehearsal there will be an open invitation (annouced at the rehearsal) to come back to our place for drinks… maaaybe a BBQ, maybe…only if we have the funds at the time, which we don’t have to determine until pretty much the week of the rehearsal.
Post # 11
i kind of wish we weren’t doing one… but we aren’t rehearsing so i think it’s kind of silly for us, it’s just an excuse for another party that i don’t have time for.
but i kind of agree with girlwitharing, if you’re bringing people there to rehearse, it would be nice to feed them, even if it’s cheap.
Post # 12
Are you having the rehersal the night before the wedding or a couple of nights before? If it’s not the night before the wedding than you can offer for people to come back to your house. A couple of pizzas can be inexpensive and at least you are offering something. But even if you don’t do anything I think as long as you explain this people will understand.
Post # 13
could you do something pretty inexspensive, like pizza? thats what were doing. ooo or how about like a spaghetti bar with different sauces and salad that wouldnt cost to much
Post # 14
We are using the ‘rehearsal dinner’ time for our parents to meet for the first time. It will just be the small group of us. While the rehearsal may be necessary if you have a large wedding party, the dinner shouldn’t be a necessary point of that.
Post # 15
I think you can do what you want. Since it was a budget thing for us, had pizza and beer. We were lucky as the pizza was only $5 a box and the beer was free as my dad has a kergerator at his house.
Post # 16
Serve pizza and soda which doesn’t cost anything. You should have something. However, rehearsal dinners are not elaborate and are supposed to be casual lowkey affairs.