Post # 1
Call me crazy but I never wanted a wedding. I thought it was too much hassle, and being a perfectionist, I got so stressed just thinking of planning a wedding. My fiance was of course very delighted with my decison – I suppose all men hate weddings. However, his grandmother wants a wedding, and now we’re going to have a wedding in his hometown. A very simple one.
Since I’m going to have a wedding ceremony, I want it done properly even if it’s very simple. The other day I spoke to my fiance and I was really shocked to know he was not planning to have any caterers – he thought it was too much work. He just wants an one hour ceremony, in and out, really quick. So my question is, is it awkward not to have any wedding reception? If we were to have some sort of lunch/dinner after that at a restaurant will that be okay? Because his hometown is so far away I doubt any of my family and friends will be attending – so is it required that I fly in at least one of my friends to be maid of honour? And since literally no one from my side is going to be present – does the bride still bear all costs of the wedding? Please advise, thanks!!
Post # 3
Who are you planning on having in attendence? His family?
I think that if you are going to invite people to a ceremony then you must have some form of reception or as you mentioned, luncheon/dinner. As for cost, if your family isn’t attending, would you and your fiance pay the cost? I guess that really depends on your and the families finances which only you know.
Post # 4
I think it would be nice to just go to a restaurant, especially if it’s a small wedding. No need to have a Maid/Matron of Honor, you can just say you want it to be family only. As for price, I think that’s different for everybody now a days. It just depends if his family wants to help pay, if not, you’ll be stuck with the cost. If your family won’t be there and it’s going to be small, maybe you and your fi will be able to pay for it.
Post # 5
just go to a nice restaurant after the ceremony. keep it very small, like family and very close friends only.
you can invite a couple of your friends, but you don’t have to “fly them in.” your parents wouldn’t even travel?
Post # 6
I think it is a bit awkward to have nothing after a wedding ceremony. You could do a very low-key and small dinner at a nice restaurant just to celebrate a little. 🙂
Nowadays the bride and the bride’s family is not expected to pay for all of a wedding. Mostly it’s split up between both bride and groom and their families these days.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone! Guess I wouldn’t mind having an intimate lunch/dinner at a restaurant after that.
So if my fiance has a best man – his brother. Is it okay that I do not have a MOH? What is the role of best man and Maid/Matron of Honor anyway?