Post # 1
I want to have a brooch bouquet or a fabric bouquet. I was just wondering what the proper etiquette is in terms of getting your bouquet back after the toss? I have never seen what happens after the bouquet scramble at weddings.
What is the best thing to do? Ask for it back or just skip the toss altogether?
Post # 3
I’ve seen here that lots of bees do a “toss bouquet” you can make one slightly smaller, or maybe just gather some roses with a ribbon. I’ve seen brides throwing one rose too!
I wouldn’t ask for it back though hehe.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@DesertLady: It would be rude to ask for it back. Get a cheap toss bouquet and hold onto your heirloom bouquet. You could even make one using wildflowers or a bunch from the local grocery store.
Post # 5
@DesertLady: Get a toss bouquet. 🙂
Post # 6
You’re suppose to have a seperate toss bouquet. My florist is doing one for like $10.
Post # 7
@DesertLady: Have you thought about getting a “throw bouquet”? So you actually get to keep yours, but throw a smaller one for someone else to keep?
Or you could just throw one of your bridesmaid’s bouquets, if you’re having them. I don’t see why that wouldn’t work.
I caught the bouquet at a wedding once. I took it home! It survived the plane ride in my suitcase (LOL) but once I put it in water it did perk up for a few days… but then it just got so ratty to the point where I had to chuck it 😛
Post # 8
@DesertLady: You could make a smaller toss bouquet or use one of the BM’s. I was Maid/Matron of Honor and the bride tossed mine so that she could keep hers.
Post # 9
It would be dangerous to throw a brooch bouquet. Imagine gettng smoked in the face with that thing! as PPs have said, get or make a cheap toss bouquet that you don’t mind parting with.
Post # 10
@DesertLady: I had a brooch bouquet too!
but I just threw one of the BM’s bouquets cuz they were simple and no one minded!
Post # 11
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
Yep, get a second “toss bouquet” and let her keep it. Also, keep it lightweight. Haha my brooch bouquet would seriously knock a B out!
Post # 12
Throwing a brooch bouquet is a crazy idea not to mention dangerous. Add to it that yes it is a touch rude to ask for the thrown bouquet back.
I would have to agree with the PP that you need a toss bouquet. That is what I had and it didn’t cost more than a couple bucks. If you want to make it yourself just go to a florist and grab a few stems to put together or have them do it.
Post # 13
@DesertLady: I have caught three bouquets and I’ve always asked the bride whether she wanted to have her bouquet back. (she never did though.) if the bride had come to me and asked to have it back, I would have totally understood and not thought twice about it. For me as a guest / single lady, this is just about the symbolism and hopefully good luck. As the bride, it really is about the bouquet, so if I am lucky enough to catch it I sure don’t mind not keeping it.
I wouldn’t spend any extra money on a different bouquet. Especially if you’re DIYing such a fancy bouquet, it should be quite clear that you’d wanna have that back. But then I consider myself to be less “etiquette” and more “common sense” if that makes sense?
Post # 14
@DesertLady: Just get a cheap toss bouquet. At the weddings I’ve been to/in, the bride buys a 2nd silk bouquet (even if she had real flowers) from a craft store or something. The one I tossed was, like, $12 (as opposed to $40 for my silk one that I walked down the aisle with/kept.
Plus I think if you hurled a brooch bouquet, someone could get hurt lol
Post # 15
Wow, thanks for the response Bees! I honestly had no idea there is such a thing a throw bouquet. I shall definitely add that to my list of things to get.
@nocleverbeepun: I was actually wondering if it is not dangerous to throw a brooch bouquet.
@ksus07: Lol at taking the bouquet home and actually putting it in a vase. Hahaahahahaahaha.
@KimmySumShuga: Your bouquet is sooooo gorgeous!!!!
Post # 16
My best friend and I are each others MOH’s this year in our upcoming weddings. We agreed to give up each other’s bouquets for the bride to toss. Also, my florist said she’d make a complimentary one out of left over bouquet flowers. There’s 2 options.